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I Feel Like I Did Everything Right, and He Still Disappeared!

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A sign post saying perfectly right.
I just don't get it - I thought I did everything right!

Our beautiful friend, Vera, feels like she did everything right this time, making sure that she wasn't pushing him away. But he still got distant and started pulling away!

Here's what she wrote:

I am no stranger to a guy pulling away and when I look back at every guy who did I realize what I did wrong to push them away.

This time it is different.

I met this guy online and from the moment we met I let him take the lead and act like the man. I NEVER once initiated contact, I did not come off as clingy or needy, I purposely said I had plans when I didn't just so it would look I was not available every time he wanted.

We dated for about 3 months and never slept together. I never at one point thought that he was after sex. He would always ask me out on actual dates and take me to  nice restaurants or movies. He always went out of the way to pick me up at my house and never pushed for me to let him come in. He is a doctor and still managed once a day to be in contact with me.

The holidays came and went and that is where things changed.Continue Reading

Please Help Me Get Him Back

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A woman looks at her phone wondering why he stopped texting.
He suddenly stopped texting or even responding to me!

I hear it all the time. Things started off so great - we had such chemistry, we clicked, I felt the spark! Then suddenly, everything changed...

One of our readers, City, is experiencing this right now. She confronted him about it, and now he's pulled away even more.

Here's what she wrote:

I met this guy a few months ago and we immediately clicked.

We had a connection (or so I thought ). We would talk till morning rise and we never wanted to be apart. He would  send me text messages just to let me know his thinking about me.

Every thing changed when he went home for holidays.Continue Reading

What the Emotionally Unavailable Man Needs From YOU

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Man lies on the couch while his girlfriend is upset with him because he's emotionally unavailable.
When you've tried everything else, there's one more thing.

How could he do this to me?

How could he do this to us?

These are the words that escape your lips. So much hurt. So much pain. So many unanswered questions.

You want to know why.

You’ve tried to ask him. You’ve tried to put your quest for answers into words that he could respond to. But he keeps saying the same thing that doesn’t make any sense to you – or he doesn’t say anything at all.Continue Reading

Everything Was Going Great Until He Said Those 5 Shocking Words

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A woman is upset after her boyfriend told her he wants to slow things down.
He said those 5 little words that no one wants to hear.

What do you do when your relationship seems to be perfect, then suddenly he says those words that you hoped to never hear again? Our letter this week comes from one of our beautiful readers who just experienced exactly that.

She has asked to remain anonymous, so I've decided to call her "Shocked", as I'm sure just about all of us can relate to how she's feeling.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I hope you read this as I'm going to be as descriptive as possible.

I'm so confused.

I just met this guy about four months ago through some co-workers who are also his housemates. I am 23 and he is 29. I recently got out of a bad relationship which lasted a little over a year. He recently got out of a 3 year relationship a few months before he met me.

My co workers said he thought I was cute and everything but I had no interest. They left us alone and he asked to kiss me. I got so unusually nervous I didn't say anything an started laughing!

He kissed me anyway.

That night one thing led to another and well you know... afterwards I started laughing again and he asked why? We ended up talking about how weird it is to be with someone else after you're so used to someone else's body.

The next morning I wasn't sure what to do I thought it was a one time thing but we texted all day and I went over again we all hung out together and that's basically how it's been for the last three months!

I've met his parents. His sister and her husband. All of his friends.Continue Reading

Three Things You Can Do When He’s Getting Emotionally Distant

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A beautiful woman stands behind a man feeling sad because he seems distant.
Is it all in your head or is he getting distant?

Why do we sometimes hold on so tightly to something that isn’t working for us?

To someone that isn’t treating us the way we deserve to be treated? Who isn’t loving us the way we were meant to be loved?

You know the scenario – it starts off with fireworks, an amazing connection; you just can’t get enough of each other. Then suddenly, he’s not calling as much, he’s out with his buddies more than he’s out with you, or you just have some gut feeling that something has changed for him.

He seems distant.

Any time a relationship I was in started taking this kind of turn for the worse I did what so many of us do. I started hanging on tighter.

Yep. Break out the stranglehold.Continue Reading

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