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Why Hasn't He Called?

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A beautiful woman is sitting On Couch At Home anxiously looking at her phone wondering why he hasn't responded.
I thought we hit it off - why hasn't he called me?

Of all the questions I'm asked, the most common one is about what to do when he hasn't called. There's something about that unfinished business, about being left hanging without an explanation that leaves even the most confident of us wondering what we did wrong, and whether or not we should try to contact him to elicit some kind of an answer.

We all share the same story line: You met a great guy, you really hit it off, maybe even went on a date or two, then nothing. No phone call, no explanation, just a silent phone. Every time the phone rings your heart rate shoots up as you grab for your phone, only to see that it's your friend or your Mom calling, as  your hearts sinks back into your stomach (sorry Mom!)

It's the same story.

The other part of the story that is always the same, is that we've convinced ourselves our situation is unique, unlike every other woman's experience with the guy who hasn't called. But the reality is that our story is exactly the same as all of the many, many women around the world, and through the ages, that have experienced the same thing. We just don't want to hear it or believe it.Continue Reading

Improve Your Dating by Changing One Thing

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A beautiful woman is on a date, smiling from across the table.
If you can avoid this one huge mistake, your dating life will improve dramatically.

I made this mistake throughout most of my dating life, as did most of my friends – in fact I think nearly all of us have.

You see, I looked at dating as serving one purpose, and one purpose only: To start a relationship with a guy that I thought could be Mr. Right.

You're probably thinking right now "But that is the purpose of dating, right?" Well, yes and no.

Let me explain.Continue Reading

Are You Too Understanding?

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A woman stands in front of her boyfriend scratching her head, wondering if she's too understanding.
There's a reason he loves how understanding you are.

I was thinking about the last post Why Won’t He Commit? 7 Things You Can Do to Move Things Along, and I realized that there’s a common theme I’m seeing among those of us who hang around far too long, waiting for a guy to come around and commit to us.

You know, the one we’re convinced could be the love of our lives if he would just come to his senses and realize that he doesn’t want to lose the best thing that’s ever happened to him.

Tell me if this doesn’t sound familiar. You’re so understanding. You understand.

I understand. It’s understandable. Do you hear that? Understanding. We’re all just so understanding!Continue Reading

Three Things You Can Do When He’s Getting Emotionally Distant

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A beautiful woman stands behind a man feeling sad because he seems distant.
Is it all in your head or is he getting distant?

Why do we sometimes hold on so tightly to something that isn’t working for us?

To someone that isn’t treating us the way we deserve to be treated? Who isn’t loving us the way we were meant to be loved?

You know the scenario – it starts off with fireworks, an amazing connection; you just can’t get enough of each other. Then suddenly, he’s not calling as much, he’s out with his buddies more than he’s out with you, or you just have some gut feeling that something has changed for him.

He seems distant.

Any time a relationship I was in started taking this kind of turn for the worse I did what so many of us do. I started hanging on tighter.

Yep. Break out the stranglehold.Continue Reading

The Worst Thing You Can Do When He Hasn't Called

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Attractive young woman awaits a phone call. wondering why he hasn't called.
I haven't heard from him - what should I do?

Last month we discussed the reasons he hasn’t called.

Since then, I've gotten a lot of questions about dating protocol regarding whether we should go ahead and call him or wait it out and see if he comes around.

It got me thinking about this topic and what’s really going on with this whole should I call him?, how long should I wait before it’s ok to call him?, etc.

Why do we put so much of our energy into trying to figure out this simple decision?

Because it has such implications.

Or does it? Does it really matter if we call him or not call him?

Of all the things I remember from my single days, that’s probably one of the most memorable; the “do I or don’t I call him” conundrum.Continue Reading

14 Warning Signs That He’s Not That in to You

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Image of a man who looks like a player showing signs he's not into you.
If you want a real relationship, then watch out for these warning signs.

When I look back at all the relationships that didn't work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that my guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was going to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for.

So, to spare you from what happened to me, to give you the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here’s my list of the warning signs that I didn't heed. Fortunately, you still can.

Here they are, in no particular order …

1.) He doesn't call you when he says he will.

Granted, I know that sometimes life can get it the way, and if he’s working late on that big project with the looming deadline it’s possible that time might get away from him once in a while.

But if this happens more than once or twice, it’s a sure sign that you’re just not a priority for him right now.Continue Reading

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