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Will It Be Worth It?

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Female hands holding a sand in form of the heart
Oh, it will be!

We don’t want to have to do anything. We just want it to work out.

We do everything we can to prove that we belong, that we’re in the right place, that he’s the right one for us. We play the part, we take on the role, we pour all our time and energy into making this our place.

Except that forcing something that isn’t meant to be forced - that doesn’t want to be forced - never works out in the end.

Because it can’t.

If we were already in the place that we’re going to come to, we’d recognize that we actually don’t want it to, either.Continue Reading

The Only Role You’re Meant to Play

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A beautiful woman is standing on stage, representing a brand new you.
It's time for you to shine.

It’s opening night.

All eyes are on the curtain as it slowly begins to rise.

There you are.

He’s looking at you like he’s never seen you before. And with good reason. He hasn’t.

Not like this.

You step out into the spotlight and he sees the woman he’s been waiting for his entire life.

You.

He can’t look anywhere else. You mesmerize him like no one else has ever done before.Continue Reading

What If All You Need Is Someone To Believe In You?

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What if it's right there in front of you?
What if it's right there in front of you?

What if you just need someone to believe in you?

All those plans, all those dreams.

They told you to find something you could actually do. They gave you all kinds of suggestions that sent the clear message they somehow knew you better than you.

They smiled to themselves, or even laughed.

But more than anything else, what they did was make you feel like there was something the matter with you.

Something wrong, something "off".Continue Reading

There's A Reason

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A woman sits on a couch writing on her laptop, looking for dating advice.
When you reach out to me, there’s a reason - even if you don't know it yet.

Last Friday’s post generated a lot of valuable conversations! I want to thank each and every one of you for having the courage to speak up and say what it brought up for you. Now you have something more to work with that you didn't have before!

What did I mean about the difference between following someone else’s advice or particular rules, and making them one’s own? Why was there so much confusion about this vagueness, and why is it actually a very good thing?

Well, let me first back up.

When you reach out to me, there’s a reason. You know there’s something you need, and even though you don’t know what that is, you sense you’re close to an answer and just need that personal response to get it.Continue Reading

Stop. Relax. Breathe. It's All Going to Be OK.

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Woman sitting and relaxing in a field, looking at the sun.
Sometimes you just need to pause, breathe, and take a step back.

What would it be like if you could feel something, but not act on it?

What would it mean for you if you could observe without jumping into action right away?

What if you could see who someone was, how they were treating you, and how they responded to you without having to do something – anything – about it right that moment?

Would you feel more confident? Would you feel more in control? Would you feel more able to see what was real – and what wasn’t?

This year, I have a word for your New Year’s Resolution.

Instead of the usual full throttle, over the top resolve that we usually put on ourselves at the first of the year. Instead of setting ourselves up for failure with some kind of impossible goal that always seems to run its course in a matter of weeks and then fall off our radar.

No, this time we’re going for a simple word:Continue Reading

I Absolutely Need a Man to Make Me Happy, and I Feel POWERLESS

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A beautiful woman sits on a couch at home alone, feeling sad that she doesn't have a boyfriend.
I'm secretly so lonely and depressed when I'm not with a man.

One of our magnificent readers Liz, is feeling utterly powerless...

Here's her story:

Hi Jane! First of all, I LOVE your site. Thanks for always being honest, helpful, and down to earth.

Given that, I'm hoping you can help me here.

I want SO badly to be that happy, independent, empowered single woman. I should be happy - I have my dream career, a social life, close friends and family, and my own hobbies.Continue Reading

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