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Should I Let Go and Move On or Keep Trying?

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A woman is upset after her boyfriend became emotionally distant and pulled away.
Am I wasting my time waiting?

Morgan's confused as to why her guy of almost 2 years won't commit to her and make her his girlfriend.

Now she's wondering if it's time to let go and move on, or if she should wait it out.

Sound familiar?

Here's what she wrote to me:

Hi Jane,

I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We have little disagreements here and there but for the most part, everything is great.

I'm confused as to why he won't make me his girlfriend.

We started talking right after his broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years. At that time, I wasnt looking for anything serious and wasnt sure where this was going so I was fine with keeping things casual.

Now I want more.Continue Reading

Is it time for me to give up?

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A beautiful woman looking pensive holds a clock wondering if she is wasting her time with her boyfriend.
How long should I wait?

Is it? Rita's wondering if it might be. Read on to see what you think, and then let her know in the comments below.

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I started seeing a guy a little over a year ago, we have both been divorced about two years, I was married for 18 years and he was for 17 years, we both have one child, that are about a year apart in age, we live in different cites, about 45 minutes apart.

When we first started dating after about two months, he broke it off because he said (famous words of all men) he wasn't ready for what he thought I wanted, a serious relationship. After about a month (I knew he would be back) he started calling me again, so we started dating again, we never talked about the "serious relationship" thing.

We have such a wonderful time together, although that time is very limited due to our schedules with our kids, maybe once a week sometimes once every two weeks. I know he enjoys being with me and when we do see one another, we do usually end up spending the night together and no we don't always have sex, but our sex life is awesome!Continue Reading

He asked me to be patient because he's not ready for a relationship

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A beautiful woman feels sad because she feels she was used.
He says he's in a transition phase.

Our letter this week comes from Claire. She's dating a guy who is asking her to be patient with him because he's not ready for more of a relationship. Sound familiar?

Here's what she wrote:

Hi Jane,

In your video, you mention maintaining  a playful distance.. what does that  look like?

I'm working on my own triggers & have been guilty of chasing before. (too much masculine energy !)

Dating a new guy(someone I met years ago) but he's in a transition phase after a toxic relationship.  He asked me to be patient.  Not my strongest attribute.Continue Reading

Should I Wait Until He's Ready to Commit Again?

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A beautiful woman sits on a couch away from her boyfriend, wondering if she can live with this.
I am so shocked. I am devastated. I am heartbroken.

This week, our email comes from gorgeous Laurene, who recently got engaged, bought a house and moved in with her fiancé. The problem is, now he's feels like he's not ready and doesn't know if he still wants to get married.

Here's her story:

Hello Jane,

I have been with my boyfriend for one year before we got engaged. Prior to that, we have been very good friends for a couple of years. Our first year was full of bliss and romance. We have our own world and I am confident that he is the one for me.

After he popped the question, we bought our own house and have chosen our wedding date, sent our save the dates to family and friends, and paid off almost half of our wedding suppliers.

Slowly, the honeymoon phase faded away.

I would always feel unappreciated and unloved. He is always preoccupied with a lot of things. There were so many fights and arguments. However, I would always find ourselves going back to our "happy bubble" after every big fight (that would always leave us emotionally drained.)Continue Reading

The Reason He Says "I Don't Know"

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Woman and man sitting on a curb breaking up, man with his head in his hands
Is it just an excuse?

He can’t tell you what he doesn’t know.

His words haunt us.

"I don’t know."

"I’m not sure why."

"I wish I could."

"I don’t mean to hurt you."

We’ve heard them all before.

The reality - the stark, harsh, cold reality - is that he can’t give you more of an answer to the questions you’re asking him because he really doesn’t know.

Yes, you and I would know.Continue Reading

After One Wonderful Year, He Suddenly Changed

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A beautiful woman is feeling sad and broken hearted about her relationship.
Why did he act so loving only to break up with me?

Our letter this week comes from Abi, who had a feeling something was off and went on to find out she was right. Sound familiar? I have a feeling most of you can relate.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane, I’ve recently gone through a breakup. He was my first ever boyfriend and the first time I’ve ever felt loved. We were dating for almost a year until he suddenly changed - as if a switch just turned in his head.

This happened the day they announced lockdown in England and I went through six weeks of no communication from him unless I instigated the conversation. As the weeks went on his behaviour started to change which started to hurt me more and made me think as to why he was doing this.

I had an inkling that he was going to break up with me but I thought I was just being paranoid.Continue Reading

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