Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Lost.
When it’s over. When the reality that this new place is worse than you thought it would be. When you long for the old reality that at least you knew.
How else to describe it except for one word … Lost
No matter whether you were prepared or not, can you ever really be prepared?Continue Reading
Our beautiful friend Yuri has been in a relationship with a guy who now says he just wants to be friends, but he's giving her mixed signals which is giving her false hope.
Dear Jane,
My boyfriend broke up with me in October 2014.
He first said that he wanted to take a break to be with himself because he had some issues then three weeks later he broke up with me. I was really sad but I managed to remain calm. But a week after the breakup he started calling me again and wanted to always hang out with me.
I went along because I was emotionally too dependent on him. As days went by I grew uncomfortable because I knew that even though we were like a couple he still didn't consider me his girlfriend. I decided to speak to him about it and he told me that he was still having some issues and that if I wanted to I could be with him because in the future we will get back together.
Again I went along with what he said hoping that we will get back together soon. But then I noticed a repeated cycle taking place.Continue Reading
I see you.
Over there, sitting all alone with your head in your hands.
Oh you think no one notices you, but I do.
How could I not? Not where I've been.
Because when you've been there, you're the first one to feel it when you see all the signs. Broken heart, broken dreams, broken everything, or so it feels. How can it not feel like this when you feel everything as deeply as you do?
Why?
Why did it end? What did I do that was so wrong? What did I do to deserve this?
You want to know. You weren't ready. Not like this, not the way it ended and not the way you feel now.
If you can just find some reason for it – if you can just make some sense of it - you know you'll be all right.Continue Reading
In my coaching practice, the question of how to get over a broken heart is one that I hear so often. Unfortunately, it’s a question almost all of us have asked at one time or another of anyone who was willing to listen.
Breakups are not only hard, they can frequently feel like something inside of us had died, and the loss of a relationship can often be just as painful as actually losing a loved one. And it makes sense – this person that you were so intimately involved with, that was such an intertwined part of your life, is suddenly gone, unreachable, untouchable.
Then there’s the self-blame, the resentment, the anger. Even if the breakup was amicable, and you've decided to remain friends (which I generally don’t recommend), it’s impossible to completely erase that feeling of utter loss.
And it really is a loss – a loss of the future that you had pictured with him. A loss of the future family life that you may have imagined. A loss of all of those wonderful times that you so totally believed were coming soon.
I know. I’ve been there too. Too many times to want to remember.
So how do we move on from a devastating breakup? How do we finally repair our shattered hopes, shattered dreams, shattered heart?Continue Reading
Our gorgeous friend, who I'll call "Madeline", was very hurt by a nasty email from her ex after their break up. She's having a very hard time letting go, and wants to let him know just how much he has hurt her with the things he said.
Thank you for all of the tips to make this new year successful!
I am a 58 year old woman that was in a long term (17 year) on and off relationship. Right after New Years, he broke it off (not the first time) and said some very hateful and nasty things when he did (via email, of course).
Maybe I should back up a little.....
I live in CA and he lives in Oregon. I have lived in Oregon with him and he has lived in CA with me and 3 times we have gone our separate ways, only to eventually work things out and get together again.
8 years ago, he lived with me in CA and I asked him to leave he had a horrible gambling problem and had started to put walls up all around.Continue Reading
One of our wonderful readers, Liam, has just received the break up letter from his girlfriend of 2 years. He has written me asking how he's going to survive this break up.
First, these articles are mostly written for young, single women.
I am a divorced man in my 50's, a great and successful guy, sensitive, intelligent, fit and attractive and thought I found my true love. She keeps abruptly breaking things off after two years when we get close, and stopped being romantic yet she calls me her best friend.
I feel stuck.
I have stepped back without contact but this situation also happened with my ex-wife of fourteen years. I'm afraid I am too good of guy sometimes or just keep picking the wrong person. I thought this person was different.
What do I do?Continue Reading
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