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My Christmas Wish for You

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Beautiful woman opening gift during the holidays.
This is the gift I want you to have.

I have a confession to make.

I’m the one who starts crying (OK, I have to admit sometimes I’m actually bawling) at some of the Christmas songs playing this time of year.

Maybe it’s because they bring back such memories of more than just time and places and experiences, but of actual emotions, and the feelings I had, whether it be happy, sad, excited, when these particular songs were playing.

Times that now only exist in the back room of my mind, and are brought out and dusted off for a fresh new look by my current self, whether I want to look or not.

Baby, Please Come Home for Christmas – my favorite version is the one by Bon Jovi (being the true 80’s girl that I am – hey, in Canada the 80’s didn’t happen until the 90’s, so it’s not that far off!). Continue Reading

The ONE THING You Need to Do to Find Mr. Right

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Beautiful woman snuggling with boyfriend on couch.
This is the one thing I wish I had done.

I have a few single girlfriends who are now in their late thirties and early forties that are always asking why they haven’t been able to find their Mr. Right. 

So I looked back at my own life to try to understand why it took me until I was over thirty to find him myself, after so many failed relationships, all which began with so much promise.

I realized that the single most important thing that I could have done that would have saved me so much time and heartbreak, the thing that I was missing all of those long, seemingly wasted years, is to have really known what I was looking for!

I know, it sounds so simple – you’re probably thinking “Of course I know what I’m looking for – a great guy!”

But what, exactly, does that mean?  Continue Reading

The Top 6 Things You Can Do to Survive the Holidays When You’re Single

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A beautiful woman is sad because she's spending the holidays alone.
I know what it's like to be alone during the holidays.

I remember how excited I would be if I met someone who showed some real relationship potential in the months or even weeks leading up to the holiday season.

Finally! This Christmas I might actually be a part of a relationship - a couple!

I might actually have someone to show up with me for the office holiday party and family Christmas gathering! Someone to exchange romantic gifts with and to snuggle with in the cold nights; to kiss under the mistletoe.

And the best part was that I’d have someone to spend New Year’s Eve with – it wouldn’t just be another year with me babysitting my nephews so my sister and her husband could celebrate their togetherness (as much as I loved being Auntie Jane, seriously - they could find another babysitter for one night!)

But most years the timing didn’t work out and I was, once again, alone for the holidays.Continue Reading

The REAL Reason He Hasn’t Called

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone wondering why he hasn't called.
If he hasn't called yet, this is probably why.

I remember it like it was just yesterday.

The conversation my single girlfriends and I would have over and over again. Whenever one of us had just gone on a first or second date, or had been in a slow moving relationship with the typical non-committal guy we were in denial about.

The conversation always inevitably came around to “Why hasn’t he called?” 

It was always spoken with that combination of sadness and desperation, with a little trace of hope salted in.

We could have had a ringtone on our phones for it. It was the tribal rallying cry, calling all of us together in support of the one whose turn it was to live it.

And then the conversation would begin, with us rehashing every single detail of what we had said and done, what he had said and done.

Every possible piece of conversation, body language, tone, nuance, and action was meticulously scrutinized as we tried to piece together the answer to that question that was eluding us once again: why hasn't he called?Continue Reading

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right (Part 2 – Lessons Learned)

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A beautiful woman is on a date with a man.
Here's what I learned about the search for Mr. Right.

Remember that relationship (or whatever it was) I was just telling you about?

Well, rather than looking at experiences like that as yet another failed attempt at love (and yes, that was only one in a long series of relationships that weren't love), here’s how I've learned to look at them: as learning experiences – on the road to true love.

Because really, that’s what they are.

Yes, sometimes I used to think it would be nice to skip the bad experiences and go straight to the real thing, but the reality is, sometimes we have a lot of things to learn.

And it’s those same experiences that make us the person we are.Continue Reading

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right. (Part 1)

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Young smiling fireman firefighter in uniform in front of fire engine machine
He wasn't Mr. Right.

This is the story of Mike, the fire fighter.

And me.

And our relationship.

Now we all know there’s just something about a firefighter, right? The big strong hero, who lives to save people, and is coming to save us too. They’re special. And if they like us, then that must mean we’re really special. We’ve really been chosen.

Or so we think.

Or at least so I thought.

After all, it was the beach. Where better for fate to bring him and me together. Sand, surf, sun and all of the endless romantic possibilities they represent. Continue Reading

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