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The Relationships category contains posts regarding the stage after dating, in which you are generally in an exclusive monogamous relationship. The Relationships category includes posts on such topics as meeting the family, commitment, is he the right one for you?, etc.

Can't Let Go? Do This Instead

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Beautiful woman sad sitting on the window sill and painting on glass feeling heartbroken because it's hard to move on.
I know I need to let go, but I just can't.

She said she can’t let go. She needs him to let her go instead because she’s not strong enough to do it.

Okay, so I hear her and I hear all of her echoing where you are and what you feel. The pull you feel is too strong. The good stuff you get from this guy is too good and the bad stuff, while it breaks your heart, well, you can justify it as long as you keep focusing on the good parts.

So here’s what you need to hear today if you’re going to change this. Because no, he's not going to change this. He's not going to be the one to let you go if he hasn't already.

Why would he? Girl, he's got it soooo good with you!

Do this instead.Continue Reading

Tired of Never Being His Priority? So Is She

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A beautiful woman is sitting on the couch upset because she wants to be married and have children and her boyfriend does not want marriage.
I feel like I'm just not a priority in his life.

Have you ever felt tired of not being a priority in his life? If so, you're not alone. Gorgeous Monica writes to me this week about her boyfriend who prioritizes much of his life higher than her.

Here's her email:

Hi Jane,

I have been with my guy for 8 years on and off hot and cold. His main priorities have always been

#1 his daughter

#2 his job

I was always number 3

I feel so rejected by accepting that also very controlled.Continue Reading

9 Ways to FINALLY Let Go and Move On

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Profile of a beautiful woman wondering if her guy will ever want a committed relationship.
I know I need to let go and move on, but I can't!

How do you let go and move on when you don’t really want to?

How do you stop caring when all you do is care?

Every day on my calls, this topic of letting go and moving on inevitably comes up in our conversations. Today I’m sharing with you what my beautiful clients have taught me about what works and what doesn’t from their first-hand experience of letting go and moving on when it’s the last thing you want to do, but the only thing left TO do.

1. Write down every last thing he did that broke your heart.

On your prettiest paper, with your most colorful pen, write down all the ways he made you feel awful, all the things he did that hurt you, and all the reasons you knew you’d have to eventually let him go.

You’re going to remember all the good things about someone much more than you’ll ever recall all those things that made you feel sad and anxious and hurt.

If you write down all the bad things, you’ll have a reference when all the good things come up and you’re tempted to once again give him the benefit of the doubt or excuse his behaviors if only he would take you back and you could try again with him.Continue Reading

Why You Can't Wait Anymore

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Rear view of a woman holding the curtains open to look out of a large light window at home.
Don't be her.

You've been waiting for someone your whole life, haven't you?

Whether it was your mom to love you, your dad to be proud of you, or your teachers to like you, your friends to include you, your boyfriends to never leave you, you've been waiting for someone to do something you wanted them to do your entire life.

To love you.

To want you.

To hold you.

To be with you.

To choose you.

To commit to you.

To never, ever leave you.

Except that never worked out the way it was supposed to.Continue Reading

What the Mirror Means for You

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Beautiful woman looking into a mirror.
THIS is why he has such a conflicted relationship with you.

You hold it up to see what it reveals.

You can't help it.

It's not just what you do. It's who you are.

You bring light to what never had light before.

You reveal what was always kept hidden before.

THIS is why he has such a conflicted relationship with you.

It's why he's half in and half 0ut.

It's why he gives you such mixed signals.

You're that good. That kind. That loving. That compassionate. That graceful.Continue Reading

Are You Owning HIS Stuff?

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Sad woman checking phone because her boyfriend blocked her.
Why did he block me?

I adore the women I coach, and one of these beautiful women I spoke with on our call today was no exception.

She recently had a relationship end painfully, and not only did she endure the pain of the unexpected breakup, after he broke up with her, he blocked her.

She can't get over the blocking part. And today, we went through why.

It's because this part isn't about him - she gets that he's not the right one for her in the long term with what she knows about him now.

But what she isn't getting over is that he blocked her when he did it.

Today I explained why.

She can't get over this part because it's the part she's embarrassed about, ashamed about. It's the part she has a "should" around.Continue Reading

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