Relationships

Regret. It’s something we’ve all experienced. It’s something our beautiful reader, Yvonne is going through right now as she struggles to find a way to move on from a heartbreak unlike any she’s ever experienced before. All she wants is to be free.

Here's her story:

After three tumultuous months of dating someone (the first month of which was amazing, because now I see he was luring me in like a predator) I gave him my virginity.

I was 23 and had intentionally waited for someone who I clicked with and who I felt respected and cherished me. I loved him, so I decided it was a good time. He said if I wasn't ready, we didn't have to, and a big part of me wishes I had taken that "out" he gave me (and also listened to myself; NO I was actually NOT ready.)

Having sex with him scared me.

I didn't know how to handle the new emotions that came with it, so I told him I didn't want to anymore, for awhile, because I just didn't think I was ready....

He did not handle it well.Continue Reading

When he doesn’t have to drive to see you – because you come to him.

When he doesn’t have to give you love – to get sex.

When he doesn’t have to court you, date you, prove his worth to you – because you make this all so easy for him.

There’s a lie going around that we believe we just have to be enough, love enough, try hard enough, give enough and he’s going to come around.

It’s been going around as long as we were old enough to absorb it, and it’s spread all around us from the music we listen to, to the shows and movies we watch, to the more subtle messages marketed to us in advertisements, carried in familiar adages we never question, and in the words of everyone around us who’s bought into it, too.Continue Reading