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The Inspiration category contains posts intended to inspire you to be your best in both love and in life. To remind you that you are beautiful, that you have worth, that you deserve the best that life and love have to offer. The Inspiration category also includes a collection of various poems, stories, etc. that have given me inspiration over the years that I'm now sharing with you.

Filling the Void

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A beautiful woman sids under a tree in autumn feeling sad and lonely.
It's like an awkward silence.

Frequently, whether we're currently in a relationship or we're single, we find ourselves looking for something, longing for something, and we're not sure exactly what it is. We're feeling empty inside, like there's a hollow space within us that we are desperately looking to fill in any way that we can.

So often what we’re really looking for is ourselves.  We’ve gone so far away from our true selves that we don’t even know who we are anymore, much less that we are anything worth being with. We've done so much changing to fit what he wanted us to be, or what we thought he wanted us to be, that we don't even know who we are anymore.

We’ve drifted so far away from who we really are that it’s uncomfortable, like an awkward silence, when we’re alone with no one to make us feel worthy.  Without someone else in our lives to make us feel validated, to make us feel chosen, to make us feel worthy, we find ourselves searching for that missing piece of us, for something to fill that void, something to make us feel whole, complete.

The point that we're completely missing is that we are whole; we are complete, in and of ourselves, without anyone else, without a guy. We don’t need anyone else to make us ok.

But that’s not how we feel.  Whether it’s how we’re brought up or from the messages we receive from our culture, from our peer groups, from our families, from our schools, we’re given the opposite message: that there is something wrong with us.

And then all it takes is a relationship or two with someone who wasn’t a whole person himself to confirm that message so deep within us that we’re not worthy, that there is indeed something wrong with us, and that rejection further cements our unconscious belief that we need something outside of ourselves to complete us.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth. The reality is we don’t need anyone to complete us. We don’t need anyone or anything outside of ourselves to validate us, make us a whole, to prove our worthiness. The reality is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with us. We’re not damaged goods.

It may be difficult to believe this, at first, but if you keep reminding yourself you will finally begin to believe the truth – that you are beautiful, you have so much worth, and you deserve to be loved and treated with respect and kindness.

And you are complete within yourself.

Because it's only when we really understand this truth, that we are complete within ourselves, that we are able to be a part of a healthy relationship with someone else.

Space For Something New

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Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.I love buttercups, so when I saw this one growing up through a crack in our back patio, I just had to take a photo of it. It absolutely amazes me that something so beautiful can grow, completely on it's own, in such  difficult circumstances. All it needed was the opportunity.

It reminded me of these equally beautiful words from Eckhart Tolle, which I dug up from the inspiration box to share with you.

So, for all of you out there who have suffered through a heart wrenching break-up (which is just about all of us), just know that all endings, whether of our own choosing or not, create space in our lives for something new, something better, to begin.

We just have to allow ourselves to be open to it.

You Deserve to be Loved!

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A beautiful woman is being hugged
We all do.

We all have inherent belief systems, as a result of our early programming, that greatly affect us throughout our lives into adulthood. For a variety of reasons, one of the most prevalent is that we don’t deserve to be loved, and it's this particular one that has the most negative effect on the quality of the relationships that we have.

It’s the belief system that you might not even realize is playing in the back of your mind, in your subconscious, as it subtly reminds you day after day that you are bad, there's something wrong with you, don’t deserve to be happy, and, worst of all, you don’t deserve to be loved!Continue Reading

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself!

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Don't be so hard on yourself.
Be gentle with yourself.

There’s one thing we women do better than anything else - we beat ourselves up.

It doesn’t matter how far we’ve come or what we’ve learned along the way, no one else is harder on us than we are.

We know all too well exactly what we should have done, could have done, would have done differently, and we’re so good at letting ourselves know just exactly how far we’ve fallen short of the mark.

We blame ourselves.

It doesn’t seem to matter what he’s done; we have so much grace for him, all too much understanding for him, and every possible excuse ready for his behavior that deserves just as much if not more of a critique than we give ourselves.

But if it’s him and what he’s done or didn’t do, we’ll forgive him. And understand and even sympathize with him. Continue Reading

This Really Is The Best Kind Of Love

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The Best Kind of Love - fun and romantic love notes on the mirror.You probably could have guessed this about me, but I absolutely love love stories.  I just found this one recently, and it’s definitely going in the inspiration box.

I'm not sure exactly why, but this one really had the tears welling up.  It may be since I’ll be celebrating 10 years of marriage this year, so I can really relate to what the author is saying, but I can also still so vividly remember the early days of bluer skies and sunnier sunshine.  I still cherish the memories of those days, with all of the excitement, anticipation, and sparks.

It’s true that as we move down the path of life with our partner, the love does change.  It no longer includes the butterflies in the stomach before I see him, nor does it include the excitement of the long, sensual kiss in the doorway.

No, the butterflies have long since been replaced with the sweet anticipation of picking him up at the airport after a trip, after missing him for so long (even though it's usually only a couple of days). And the long sensual kiss in the doorway has now been replaced with “oh good, the kids are finally asleep…”Continue Reading

3 Steps to Bring Passion into Your Life

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A beautiful woman is smiling because she has passion in her life.
When you have passion, you're eyes will be smiling.

A while back I wrote a post about loving your life by always finding time to do what you love. In this post we’re going to go into that a little deeper, because it’s such an important topic.

Bringing love into your life starts with you – and it starts with loving your life.

And what makes you love your life? Passion.

The kind of passion we’re talking about here is the kind that makes you feel excited, alive, and enthusiastic. The kind that puts a skip in your step, and gives you smiling eyes.

The kind that makes you want to get out of bed early to spend time doing it, and makes you late for work because you lost track of time. The kind that gives you a zest for life.Continue Reading

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Hi, I'm Jane Garapick. I'm here to provide inspiration, support and empowerment on the journey to true love. I know what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. And I know for a fact, that your dreams can still come true! Read more...
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