You know when it happens for you, Beautiful? The moment right after you think it won't.
The very next moment after you think all hope is lost, that nothing's ever going to change for you, that you're simply destined to be alone forever, that you're simply one of the unlucky ones and that's never going to change.
That's when.
We think we'll know when we're getting close. That we'll somehow hear that voice along the way that tells us it's right around the corner.
But, Beautiful, it doesn't happen like that. Right up to the moment right before you know for sure, you won't believe anything could possibly be any different.
Until it is.
I hear this all the time.
"But all the good men are already taken."
"But all I'm finding are guys I'm not interested in."
"They just want someone younger."
Don't do yourself a disservice like this!
You're not looking for the good men who are already taken.
You're not looking for the guys you're not interested in.
You're not looking for a player.
And you're not looking for someone who wants someone younger than you.
In fact, you're not looking for anyone who isn't looking for you just the way you are!
So instead of trying to protect yourself by telling yourself someone else's story that was never yours, realize that you don't need to.
It doesn't protect you. It doesn't serve you. All it does is keep repeating an old outdated message that keeps you right where you are, believing nothing's changed and nothing's ever going to change for you.
It does! And it will for you, too.
I just received an email from yet another woman who's now been with her new guy for over a year and they're talking about marriage - a guy she never would have found if she had believed all her old messaging that kept playing in her head.
All along I kept reminding her of exactly what I'm telling you here, and as much as she was having a hard time believing it, given all the horrible relationships and marriage she'd been through, she kept an open mind that maybe - just maybe - there might be something to this. And she found out there was.
I love proving you wrong. I love changing your stories. I love helping you trust what you've been wanting to trust in all along.
Yourself. Your intuition. Your faith. Your heart of hearts.
Don't keep denying yourself the reality that hope can bring just because you can't see it now. Now is just one moment in time - not the rest of your life.
Look for it. Stay curious about the "how" part. Be open to possibilities you haven't even thought of yet. One of these days, I'm going to be getting that email from you!
Love,
Jane
How about you? What do you need to be reminded of to bring back your hope? Tell me all about it in the comments below. I'm here for you!
I dont knowb if i should belive my bf when he says he loves me and wants us to work on us. Or if i should give mr j my all
I've been texting a guy for a year. Then 3 weeks ago he stopped calling me baby and texts were short. Then a straight asked and he admitted he has met someone but it's not serious at the moment. I'm heartbroken as he wanted things very slow as he been hurt in past. Feel like I built his confidence up then he ditched me
Don't take his behaviour on you, Rach. He was the one who wasn't able to be honest with you. Of course it "isn't serious". You have no reason to trust this guy again. One more thing, don't settle for texts when you deserve to have the full picture of who someone is before you allow yourself to become attached. You're the prize here, girl. He gets to have real life conversations and go on real live dates with you!