Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Are you doing it again?
Waiting?
Waiting for someone to change?
Waiting for someone to find you?
Waiting for someone to make it all better?
It's okay. There's no shame in admitting if you're here. I've been here. Most of the women I coach have been here before. It's my own default place.
You don't even realize you're doing it.Continue Reading
The subject line of her email said it all. "I am incapable of a successful relationship."
I'm answering Tina's email on the blog today because I hear from so many of you who've come to the same conclusion and you've all but given up any hope of changing this. You're in the right place because I find hope out of hopelessness despite what you can't yet see, so stay with me here. If you've ever felt like this, I've got so much hope for you today!
Hi Jane,Continue Reading
I love meeting you and hearing your stories.
Most of the women I work with are some of the most beautiful, successful, extraordinary women I've ever met who are all carrying around with them a secret they don't want anyone to know.
Their secret?
They don't feel that strong.
More often than not, they're crying behind their smiles.
Life hasn't been what it was supposed to be for them.
Sure, they're got a lot to show for their time here so far. And yes, they've had all kinds of experiences and accomplished all kinds of things along the way.Continue Reading
I have one question for you today.
Do you have people in your life who actually see you? Who embrace you, who celebrate you? The real you - not the image you put out there because that's who you've been told you are, but the actual you?
Since you're here, I'm assuming you've only known relationships with men who were never the right ones for you, who had no place in your life.
I want to change that for you.
We need to create some semblance of what it feels like to be loved and accepted and adored for you. If you've never experienced anything like this before, we're going to start fresh as if today is the first day of the new you.
The you who loves to dance, who loves to move, who hears the music all around you and believes in a different world from the one you've been through.Continue Reading
Instead of asking yourself what's wrong with you, or what you did or said wrong, or why you weren't good enough for him, there's something else you need to be asking instead. Who treats someone like this? Who withholds reassurance from someone vulnerable enough to ask for it?
You think it's you because that's what we're so programmed to believe - that it's because you said too much or the wrong thing at the wrong time. But why can't you communicate directly with someone you're getting to know, who's obviously giving you some indication he's interested or you wouldn't be here at all?
Ask yourself this; isn't there something wrong with a guy who responds to you by avoiding or ignoring you, instead of being honest with you? What does that say about him?
Don't put this on yourself, Beautiful. You're human.
No, you're not perfect. No, not everyone is going to be on the same page as you or want to be with you.Continue Reading
Have you ever felt tired of not being a priority in his life? If so, you're not alone. Gorgeous Monica writes to me this week about her boyfriend who prioritizes much of his life higher than her.
Hi Jane,
I have been with my guy for 8 years on and off hot and cold. His main priorities have always been
#1 his daughter
#2 his job
I was always number 3
I feel so rejected by accepting that also very controlled.Continue Reading
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