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The One That Made Me Sick (Literally!)

A beautiful woman lies on the couch holding her stomach because she is feeling sick over her breakup. — I felt like I'd been hit by a bus!

It was about 12 years ago, at a ski resort in South Lake Tahoe.

It was Thanksgiving, and my best friend and I had decided to take advantage of the long weekend and get out of Los Angeles to spend the holiday with her family in their vacation cabin.

So there we were, two single girls in our late twenties headed off for a fun filled weekend at the slopes.

Skiing? Oh no. There was none of that involved.

We were there for a much higher purpose – to meet MEN!

So we spent the weekend doing what we did best – we shopped during the day, and went out on the town at night.

It all started off innocently enough.Continue Reading

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right (Part 2 – Lessons Learned)

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A beautiful woman is on a date with a man. — Here's what I learned about the search for Mr. Right.

Remember that relationship (or whatever it was) I was just telling you about?

Well, rather than looking at experiences like that as yet another failed attempt at love (and yes, that was only one in a long series of relationships that weren't love), here’s how I've learned to look at them: as learning experiences – on the road to true love.

Because really, that’s what they are.

Yes, sometimes I used to think it would be nice to skip the bad experiences and go straight to the real thing, but the reality is, sometimes we have a lot of things to learn.

And it’s those same experiences that make us the person we are.Continue Reading

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher: What Did Demi Really Lose?

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I was thinking about an article I read years ago about the break-up of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.

As I was reading about how Demi and others before her have ended their relationships with cheating men, I realized something important that I wanted to share with you. Because it’s the perfect example of what we need to remember about these guys we get involved with.

Every single one of them.

And it’s one of the themes that I’m always talking about.

That we really do teach him how to treat us.

If you ever had any doubt about that, just look at Demi Moore’s announcement where she states clearly that she is not going to put up with this kind of betrayal of her and her family. Continue Reading

If I Knew Then What I Know Now … Words of Wisdom to My Younger Self: What Every Woman Needs to Know About the Search For Mr. Right (Part 1).

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A photo of the word knowledge in the dictionary. — There are some things we can only learn in the "going through".

I’ve been getting a lot of questions lately from women wondering about what they should be doing to try to find him. The guy who’s Mr. Right for them. And I’m hearing you all very clearly.

What you’re saying behind the words.

You want some reassurance. You want to know it’ll happen to you. You want to know what to do, how do it – basically, you want in on the secret to finding him so that you can finally relax and just know it’s coming.

Your own true love.Continue Reading

The "A" word - Alone

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Sometimes, if we look at the reasons we stay in a relationship that isn't working, we find that it’s all about the A word.

Alone.

If we’re really honest with ourselves, I think we’d find that much of the stuff we allow in our relationships is because we’re afraid of being alone. As in, without a guy.

I think a lot of us feel that way even if we don’t want to admit it.

We don’t want to be alone. Whether it’s our culture that tells us we need to be with someone, be part of a couple to be OK, or whether it’s our own internalized belief system, we can go to great lengths to make sure we’re with someone, even if he’s not the one for us.

Because at least he’s someone.

And if he’s someone and we’re with him, than we’re not alone.Continue Reading

Letting Go

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It’s hard to let go of a dream.

Even harder to let go when we still believe the dream might still come true. Someday.

So we hang on.

A little longer. Or maybe a lot longer.

Because it was everything in the beginning. It seemed like the beginning of that perfect relationship.

The real thing. He seemed like everything we were looking for. He seemed to be in it as much as we were. But then everything changed. And he’s not in it like he used to be. And we are.

So here we are.

Still hoping. Still hanging on. To that dream.Continue Reading

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The One That Made Me Sick (Literally!)

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right (Part 2 – Lessons Learned)

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher: What Did Demi Really Lose?

If I Knew Then What I Know Now … Words of Wisdom to My Younger Self: What Every Woman Needs to Know About the Search For Mr. Right (Part 1).

The "A" word - Alone

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