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He Might Be Right In Front of You

A beautiful woman is re-thinking a relationship with the nice guy. — Don't overlook that genuinely nice guy just because you don't think he's your type.

Sometimes the perfect guy for you has been right there all along, you just didn't notice.

Buried in between all the unhealthy relationships that never turned out the way I wanted them to; in between all those heartbreaking dramatic episodes with guys that could never give me what I was so looking for, there were a few men who were what I now recognize as really healthy, relationship material kind of guys.

But at the time I was just not open to seeing them that way; instead I continued to chase the unhealthy romantic fantasies about love that I had in my head.

These were genuinely good guys who were looking for an exclusive relationship, weren't afraid of commitment, were honest, were real and didn't play games.

Guys who would talk about real life everyday topics, would call when they said they were going to call, show up and plan ahead for when we would see each other so I felt confident that I was a priority, and basically treated me the way I actually wanted to be treated.

But because they weren't igniting my own unhealthy chemistry indicator, or maybe because they weren't going full tilt on the romantic pursuit that made me feel so desirable and worthy, they never stood a chance.Continue Reading

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Why Won't He Commit? 7 Things You Can Do to Move Things Along

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A beautiful woman on a pier with her boyfriend in the background, upset because he won't commit. — What do I do to make him want what I want?

There’s a very common scenario that seems to happen to all of us at one time or another, and sometimes over and over again.

We end up in a relationship with a guy that has tons of potential, IF he would just commit!

And the dilemma is always - how long to wait it out to see if he truly IS going to come around? Or are we just wasting our time? Or, what if you've finally had enough, and decide to move on right before he was about to come around?

This is one of the most commonly asked questions because we are such a hopeful group. The bottom line is that what we’re really asking is how do we know if he’ll ever commit?

When I was doing some soul searching on this subject, I realized that this was my own number one reason for being single as long as I was. I wasted so much time and energy - especially time – waiting. Waiting for a guy to come around. Waiting and waiting for him to commit.Continue Reading

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right (Part 2 – Lessons Learned)

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A beautiful woman is on a date with a man. — Here's what I learned about the search for Mr. Right.

Remember that relationship (or whatever it was) I was just telling you about?

Well, rather than looking at experiences like that as yet another failed attempt at love (and yes, that was only one in a long series of relationships that weren't love), here’s how I've learned to look at them: as learning experiences – on the road to true love.

Because really, that’s what they are.

Yes, sometimes I used to think it would be nice to skip the bad experiences and go straight to the real thing, but the reality is, sometimes we have a lot of things to learn.

And it’s those same experiences that make us the person we are.Continue Reading

Part II: If I knew then what I know now...

...I wouldn’t think that finding him (and keeping him) was about using some magic formula, or playing games or uncovering some secret.

I would know that it’s about being real, honest, and authentic; without the games, the acting, the manipulating and the pretending.

I've officially read enough books and articles about the search for Mr. Right to understand why we’re all confused.

Really confused.

And not connecting. And scared. And trying. And still not connecting.

And essentially not coming any closer to finding Mr. Right than we were before we started having access to all the secrets out there to finding him.Continue Reading

One Big Happy Family – But Where’s My Boyfriend?

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A beautiful woman spends time with her boyfriends family at a picnic when her boyfriend is out with his friends. — Yes, he's out with his buddies again.

I remember it well. It was a Saturday night, and I was off to the mall - again - with my guy’s mom.

Yep, you read that right.

Not with him; not with my girlfriends. With his mom.

See here’s the thing; if I couldn’t be with him on Saturday nights, (you see, that was the well-rested, high-energy day he saved for going out with his buddies while I got the end-of the-week exhausted Friday nights), then the next best thing to me was to be with his family.

Any of them. Even his brother-in-law.

There we were on the couch. All four of us. His mom, his dad, his brother-in-law and me. Watching television after we’d gotten back from shopping (his mom and me - remember?)

His sister was working late again, or she’d have been there too. So there we were - one big happy family, right?Continue Reading

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He Might Be Right In Front of You

Dress Rehearsal

Why Won't He Commit? 7 Things You Can Do to Move Things Along

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right (Part 2 – Lessons Learned)

Part II: If I knew then what I know now...

...I wouldn’t think that finding him (and keeping him) was about using some magic formula, or playing games or uncovering some secret.

One Big Happy Family – But Where’s My Boyfriend?

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