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Has your dream turned into a nightmare?

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A beautiful woman lies in bed next to her boyfriend, wondering what decision to make.
All these years I tried to make this relationship work.

Ever feel like your dream for your relationship has turned into a nightmare?

You're not alone.

One of my boyfriends bought me a book on dream interpretations because I had such vivid nightmares while we were dating. Little did he know they were about him! - and for a good reason. What my conscious mind couldn't bring myself to see, my subconscious mind couldn't NOT see.

I've heard the same from many of you in my working with you who've shared your own vivid dreams with me, so today I'm sharing Kelli's letter with you so you can feel another heart who relates to what you've been through. Here's what she wrote to me ...

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I decided to write to you because burning the bridge on a relationship is tough and I need support.

I did walk away finally and could see why I kept hanging on.

I do know that when a healthy relationship comes along it will be such a relief.

Wishing the old relationship had turned out differently is like hanging on to a cloud.Continue Reading

Sure you still want him?

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Man is cheating on his girlfriend texting the other woman while she sleeps in bed next to him.
This is when the real work kicks in.

Oh girl, believe me I've tried. You're not the exception and you're not going to save him.

The conversation always goes something like this.

"I get him like his ex never got him. He tells me he's never felt like this before. So how can you say I won't be the exception? How can you say I can't save him? I'm not like anyone else he's been with. Isn't that worth something?"

So let's say you are.

Let's say you really are the exception you believe you're going to be. So what then? You think that's going to be the end of it? That you get him, he commits to you, and you somehow have your happily ever after with this guy?

No, that's not the way this works. You're not home free - or free anything! - if you somehow eek a commitment out of him.

That's when the real work kicks in.

Now you have to keep him. Now you have to keep up the herculean effort it took to get him this far. The being perfect, the biting your tongue, the holding back, the keeping yourself in check, the pleasing, the performing.Continue Reading

Should I Let Go and Move On or Keep Trying?

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A woman is upset after her boyfriend became emotionally distant and pulled away.
Am I wasting my time waiting?

Morgan's confused as to why her guy of almost 2 years won't commit to her and make her his girlfriend.

Now she's wondering if it's time to let go and move on, or if she should wait it out.

Sound familiar?

Here's what she wrote to me:

Hi Jane,

I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We have little disagreements here and there but for the most part, everything is great.

I'm confused as to why he won't make me his girlfriend.

We started talking right after his broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years. At that time, I wasnt looking for anything serious and wasnt sure where this was going so I was fine with keeping things casual.

Now I want more.Continue Reading

3 things you NEED to know about guys who won’t commit

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Green freeway sign with Commitment written on it.
Here's what you need to know...

There are 3 things you NEED to know about guys who won’t commit.

I know you think he’s going to be different with you.

I know you think you’re going to be the exception to his whole history with women because you’ve got so much of that beautiful loving in your heart that NOTHING anyone says is going to faze you.

I’m here to set the record straight because I’ve seen way too much of this and girl, it is HURTING YOU!Continue Reading

10 years dating but still not committed. Do I let him go?

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Unhappy couple after fight not talking to each other
Will he ever be ready for a commitment?

Ten years is a long time to be dating someone without a commitment. It's never something we set out to do, but in the case of Anne, it's where she's found herself.

Read on to hear her story, and my response, then let her know what YOU think she should do!

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I've been with a guy for 10 years. There's lots of drama.

Every time I find that he's seeing some one else, he swears he's only flirting and nothing happened with them.

I'm 54 and he is 49.Continue Reading

Can I trust him when he wants to "take it slow"?

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Portrait of young happy woman in front of couple embracing each other
He says he needs to date other women to be sure.

Beautiful Emma wants a committed, exclusive relationship with her boyfriend of almost three months, but he doesn't. Ever been there?

Here's what she wrote:

Hi Jane... I love your work.

I know you've talked about these types of men before but I'm hoping you can help me with the following issue:

I've been seeing this guy I met online for, maybe, 2.5 months (not exclusive). We have a great connection.Continue Reading

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