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The posts in the Finding Love category relate to bringing love into your life, whether you are currently single, dating, or in a relationship. This category includes topics such as finding yourself, knowing what you want, living your life, etc.

Pick one

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Beautiful young woman with long hair lying on the grass
It's time to do things a little differently.

My message for you today is a short but important one, so listen up, because it has the potential to change everything that's wrong in your life!

For those of you who feel overwhelmed at the thought of doing anything different, let alone knowing what that one thing to do would be, think about this.

If you don't do anything different, if you don't go out of your usual zone, if you don't look for different people than you're used to finding, how can you NOT keep repeating your old patterns?Continue Reading

Are you calling this a flaw?

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Beautiful woman looking into a mirror.
Let's change how you see yourself.

I've got something for you to do today.

I want you to find the worst thing about you, the part of you that you most wish you weren't, and turn it around.

What's the other positive side of it? What other purpose does it serve?

I used to hate how sensitive I was, I saw it as such a flaw. But when I could finally see the other side of it, the part that allowed me to feel another's pain, to sense when I was around people who were safe or unsafe, and to experience joy as deeply as I experience sadness, I came to accept and embrace that part of me as well.

There's something about accepting what we call a flaw and turning it around that makes us stronger, more confident, because we know more of who we are and why we're exactly the way we're meant to be.

What is that "flaw" - that's anything but a flaw - for you? Tell me in the comments, I want you to hear exactly what it is!

Love,

Jane

One guy; really?

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Beautiful woman looking out the window on a rainy day, wondering if it serves her.
It's time to look at it for what it really is.

He's one guy.

I get that.

One really important guy you've pinned all your hopes and dreams on.

I get that, too.

But because one person isn't capable of seeing you, you're going to let that one person define your worth?

No! Not this time and not any other time either.

We're done doing that. We've done that too many times already.

Take him down off that pedestal right now, girl, and take a look at what you've actually got.

The real picture, not the fantasy of "but you don't know him like I do" that you keep coming back to. I DO know him like you do because guys like him are the ONLY ones I'd ever known before I finally did something about it and they all follow a familiar pattern.

Someone who breaks your heart over and over again.

Someone who triggers every one of your blind spots so you can't even see why it's happening. (Get my program WHY MEN PULL AWAY if you want to finally understand why.)

Sure, those good times feel great. Sure, he's got a ton of potential. But there's more to life than potential that breaks your heart every single day, more to life than tears and loneliness and waiting for something to change.

Whatever happened to the woman you used to be who would NEVER allow herself to be treated this way?

Love,

Jane

Whatever happened to her? We all have our stories, our reasons why we've settled for the things that we do. Share yours here in the comments so we can make her more than just a memory again. I want to bring you back to the woman you used to be who stands in her power and NEVER allows herself to be treated this way!

Doors

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Many home white door open in cloudy sky
Open the one that's right for you.

I've been talking about this a lot on my calls lately.

That's right. Doors.

Like that door you keep trying so hard to open?

You know, the one you keep pounding on that STILL won't open, no matter what you do.

Well, what's behind it isn't yours!

Go knock on another door. And another. Don't keep wasting your time.

If it's not opening, it's not a sign to try harder, to be more, to do more, to make it the mountain you choose to die on out of principle.

It's not meant to be!

The one that opens? Fling it open with arms wide open, Girl.

THAT'S the one for you! ❤️

Love,

Jane

I know someone needed this today. Let me know in the comments if it was you!

Prove it

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A beautiful woman walks down a path towards the light symbolizing trying to move on from a man who won't commit.
It's what you need to do so you can clear your path.

I've got a simple one for you today.

Prove it.

Prove it to yourself.

The one thing you're holding onto as your reason for not doing what it is you actually want to do. The one thing you don't believe you can be. The one thing you don't believe you can have.

Prove yourself right.

Because this is a theme that comes up time and time again in my emails and calls with you.

It's woven all throughout your stories.Continue Reading

One Question

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A beautiful woman is sitting at a table frustrated, questioning herself.
This is what you have to ask yourself.

I have one question for you today.

Do you have people in your life who actually see you? Who embrace you, who celebrate you? The real you - not the image you put out there because that's who you've been told you are, but the actual you?

Since you're here, I'm assuming you've only known relationships with men who were never the right ones for you, who had no place in your life.

I want to change that for you.

We need to create some semblance of what it feels like to be loved and accepted and adored for you. If you've never experienced anything like this before, we're going to start fresh as if today is the first day of the new you.

The you who loves to dance, who loves to move, who hears the music all around you and believes in a different world from the one you've been through.Continue Reading

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