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Next time you want to know why you keep finding these guys, read this.

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young attractive couple in relationship problem with internet mobile phone addiction boyfriend ignoring sad neglected and bored girlfriend at home couch feeling depressed and lonely
If you have to live like this now ...

Why do we keep finding these guys?

Because we want to.

We want them. Exactly as they are.

They're our projects. Our goals.

We find the hardest guy to get to commit, the one who shows the least signs of settling down and being the family guy, the faithful guy or whatever else it is we say we want so badly but our actions keep showing us the opposite.

And we decide HE'S the guy we want. Why would we ever do that if we really wanted a real relationship with someone capable of loving us?

You're getting what you ACTUALLY want regardless of what you keep saying you want, Beautiful.

Everything about what you're doing by picking these guys is about proving your worth by getting this ungettable guy. If that's not a word already, it fits here perfectly so we're using it.Continue Reading

Has your dream turned into a nightmare?

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A beautiful woman lies in bed next to her boyfriend, wondering what decision to make.
All these years I tried to make this relationship work.

Ever feel like your dream for your relationship has turned into a nightmare?

You're not alone.

One of my boyfriends bought me a book on dream interpretations because I had such vivid nightmares while we were dating. Little did he know they were about him! - and for a good reason. What my conscious mind couldn't bring myself to see, my subconscious mind couldn't NOT see.

I've heard the same from many of you in my working with you who've shared your own vivid dreams with me, so today I'm sharing Kelli's letter with you so you can feel another heart who relates to what you've been through. Here's what she wrote to me ...

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I decided to write to you because burning the bridge on a relationship is tough and I need support.

I did walk away finally and could see why I kept hanging on.

I do know that when a healthy relationship comes along it will be such a relief.

Wishing the old relationship had turned out differently is like hanging on to a cloud.Continue Reading

Should I Let Go and Move On or Keep Trying?

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A woman is upset after her boyfriend became emotionally distant and pulled away.
Am I wasting my time waiting?

Morgan's confused as to why her guy of almost 2 years won't commit to her and make her his girlfriend.

Now she's wondering if it's time to let go and move on, or if she should wait it out.

Sound familiar?

Here's what she wrote to me:

Hi Jane,

I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We have little disagreements here and there but for the most part, everything is great.

I'm confused as to why he won't make me his girlfriend.

We started talking right after his broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years. At that time, I wasnt looking for anything serious and wasnt sure where this was going so I was fine with keeping things casual.

Now I want more.Continue Reading

3 things you NEED to know about guys who won’t commit

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Green freeway sign with Commitment written on it.
Here's what you need to know...

There are 3 things you NEED to know about guys who won’t commit.

I know you think he’s going to be different with you.

I know you think you’re going to be the exception to his whole history with women because you’ve got so much of that beautiful loving in your heart that NOTHING anyone says is going to faze you.

I’m here to set the record straight because I’ve seen way too much of this and girl, it is HURTING YOU!Continue Reading

10 years dating but still not committed. Do I let him go?

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Unhappy couple after fight not talking to each other
Will he ever be ready for a commitment?

Ten years is a long time to be dating someone without a commitment. It's never something we set out to do, but in the case of Anne, it's where she's found herself.

Read on to hear her story, and my response, then let her know what YOU think she should do!

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I've been with a guy for 10 years. There's lots of drama.

Every time I find that he's seeing some one else, he swears he's only flirting and nothing happened with them.

I'm 54 and he is 49.Continue Reading

Is it time for me to give up?

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A beautiful woman looking pensive holds a clock wondering if she is wasting her time with her boyfriend.
How long should I wait?

Is it? Rita's wondering if it might be. Read on to see what you think, and then let her know in the comments below.

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I started seeing a guy a little over a year ago, we have both been divorced about two years, I was married for 18 years and he was for 17 years, we both have one child, that are about a year apart in age, we live in different cites, about 45 minutes apart.

When we first started dating after about two months, he broke it off because he said (famous words of all men) he wasn't ready for what he thought I wanted, a serious relationship. After about a month (I knew he would be back) he started calling me again, so we started dating again, we never talked about the "serious relationship" thing.

We have such a wonderful time together, although that time is very limited due to our schedules with our kids, maybe once a week sometimes once every two weeks. I know he enjoys being with me and when we do see one another, we do usually end up spending the night together and no we don't always have sex, but our sex life is awesome!Continue Reading

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