Getting to TRUE Love

Finding your YOU that leads to TWO

You are here: Home / Archives for 2020

Archives for 2020

This Thanksgiving, Do THIS Instead!

2 Comments

A beautiful woman looks out a window wondering why she is not strong.
It's time to let your feelings be felt.

If you’re being flooded with messages today telling you all the things you should be thankful for, and the LAST thing you feel right now is grateful, I’m here to tell you I see you, I hear you, and I feel every bit of what you’re going through today.

NOT feeling our feelings is the problem with so much of what’s gone wrong in our lives and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you don’t feel what everyone’s telling you you’re SUPPOSED to feel today.

It’s easy to feel grateful when you’re warm and cozy in your house with a husband or partner who loves you, surrounded by babies (or fur babies) who make your house feel like a home. It's easy to feel thankful when you’ve got enough money, a secure job, your health, and good friends and relatives who make you feel loved and supported.Continue Reading

You're too good for him, Girl.

32 Comments

A beautiful woman with her face in her hands because her self esteem is so low.
You have to ask yourself - are the tears worth it?

You're too kind for him, too compassionate for him, too understanding for him, too good for him, Girl.

Sure, he needs every bit of what you've got to offer him, but he's giving you nothing in return that's even close to what you're offering him. And yet all you're doing is justifying why those crumbs are worth you.

Stop justifying. Stop making excuses. Start looking at what's right there in front of you; the facts you already know.

Yes, I know. Facts are boring. Reality isn't exciting. And this one's potential offers so much more hope than anyone else you've been with so far.

Is crying yourself to sleep exciting? Is waiting for someone to come around exciting?

Is living in the future or the past because the present is too painful, the way you pictured love was going to be?

I meet way too many of you under the worst kind of circumstances, scraping the barrel for whatever crumbs you can still get from him. I see it so clearly for you because you can't see it when he's still all you can think about or cry about - but I'll tell you this.

I've been right there where I couldn't see it either and one of these days, just like me, you're going to see it so clearly too.

Oh girl, ask yourself this; is he really worth what you're putting yourself through?

Tell us in the comments below.

A World of Regrets

11 Comments

sad woman walking on the city street at sunset
Refuse to take on what was never yours to carry.

All those things you think you should have done differently, everything you think would have made all the difference in the world, the truth is it wouldn't have changed a thing.

Because if someone has such impossible expectations of you to expect that you are only worthy if you are perfect, then believe me, you don't want any part of them!

You've tried perfect.

You've tried being everything to all people and especially his kind of people.

Where has it gotten you? Has it brought you any closer to the kind of love you yearn for?

Or has it only brought you more pain, more hurt, more trying to measure up to someone else's standards who, for all their potential in the world, likely has no clue about love?Continue Reading

Fear ... and Hope

26 Comments

A beautiful woman covers her face with her hands because she is feeling afraid and lonely.
Yes, it can be scary, but know that it will pass.

Yes, it's scary.

Uncertainty. Fear. The Unknown.

There's been an overwhelming theme to all my calls with so many of you this week, and it's a reminder that we're all connected, feeling similar things regardless of where we find ourselves in this world of ours.

Thing have changed with the reality of Covid, the US elections that have brought up so many more feelings for all of us, and yet in the midst of all of what we're feeling and experiencing, life still must somehow go on.

But how?Continue Reading

Yes, you.

12 Comments

A beautiful woman stands, looking downward, in front of a red brick wall.
It's time to give yourself the compassion you give others.

If last night was another night you couldn't sleep because of something you said or did that you can't let go of (because of how messed up everything became after the fact), it's time you had some grace and compassion and understanding for you.

Yes, you.

See, you have it for everyone else. You go out of your way to excuse and understand and see the best in and give everyone else you're invested in, the benefit of the doubt. But for you, it's a different story.

There's no compassion or grace in the way you look at your imperfections. There's only judgement and disdain for how you look upon what you should have known better and should have done differently instead of what you did.

So when he called you out on the very thing you were trying to prevent, when he turned it on you because you were trying so hard to be perfect you forgot you were human, too, it only added insult to injury on how you were already feeling about yourself.

Let it go.Continue Reading

I’m TOO perfect? How is THAT the problem?!

7 Comments

A beautiful woman leans her head against a tree, looking unsure.
I just don't get it.

Your comments inspire a lot more than I often have time to put into my responses, and a recent one was no exception as it brought up a point too important and relevant for any of you to miss.

It’s a scenario you’re used to. He’s pulling away, while giving you his reasons, sharing his sad story from his past. He just wants to be loved, to be understood, to know he can trust you, and yet even when the entire essence of you conveys that to him with everything you do and say, it's STILL not enough to make him ready for a commitment with you!

You're incredulous. How can I be all that and he STILL doesn't know it's going to be different for us than it's ever been with anyone else he's been with? How do I show him that?

I responded by telling her precisely what the problem was.

She’s too perfect for him.

I've had this conversation with so many women before her. I imagined her looking at me incredulously, which is usually the response I get. How could that possibly be the problem?! She’s been trying to be perfect ENOUGH her whole life.Continue Reading

Latest Tweets

Recent Comments

Calendar

May 2025
M T W T F S S
 1234
567891011
12131415161718
19202122232425
262728293031