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Remember when you first learned to ride a bike? It's the same thing.

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woman riding a bike
It's time to spread your wings again.

Out of all the tips and tricks you read about everywhere you look these days, there's just one thing that makes anything "work" for you.

It's you!

Remember the phrase, if you could see yourself the way someone who loves you sees you, you would never EVER allow yourself to be treated this way? That's it!

Find someone in your life who sees you like this and hold that vision they have for you.

They don't see you being used, they don't see you being treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. They see you being loved!

It's like learning to ride a bike with training wheels, then someone holds the bike for you when you're ready to take them off. They become the training wheels, steadying you until you're riding by yourself. And before you know it, you're flying high because they let go!Continue Reading

What's your why?

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The words what's your why written on white paper.
It's the most important question you can answer.

That's it.

That's the most important question you can answer that's going to bring you the results you're looking for.

Every day, you tell me your stories of why you do the things you do, why you can't stop doing those things, why what you believe is just the way it is and why you've given up on hoping it's ever going to be any different for you.

I listen. And then I ask you that most important question you NEED to answer before ANYTHING is going to be different for you.

Why?

Why are you too old?

Why are you so unique that you're going to be the one person that never finds anyone while everyone else does?Continue Reading

What about friendships with other women? I have such a hard time with this!

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A beautiful woman leans her head against a tree, looking unsure.
I am "that single girl".

Nikki's writing to me today about challenges she's experienced around her friendships with other women. She's looking for some advice and I've got some for her! See if this is something you can relate to as well.

Here's what she wrote:

Dear Jane,

Thank you for this website. Every article you have written has applied to me. I really needed to read ALMOST ALL your articles today. I am "that single girl". Smart, attractive, nice funny,  great job, etc. but can't keep a man or friends for that matter.

I have been the girl to stay in bad relationships for fear of being alone, compromising myself to fit in with people that did not honor me. I am also the single girl at all family gathering. Yes, even the young ones in the family, are married and popping out babies.Continue Reading

Your One Thing

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A woman is looking up at question marks above her head.
What's yours?

I started a coaching session with a woman yesterday with the same question I've got for you.

Like most of us who've been here, she's got a guy she's hearing less and less from and is struggling to get over him once and for all.

I knew this was going to be a long session and I wanted to get to the heart of the matter to get her some relief right away, so I narrowed it down to one single question whose answer stood out as soon as she told me her story. I needed her to make this connection so she could see the significance of it, too.

What is the one skill you feel you're lacking? Or, put another way, what is the one thing you wish you could do that would make you feel so much better right now?Continue Reading

Prove it

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A beautiful woman walks down a path towards the light symbolizing trying to move on from a man who won't commit.
It's what you need to do so you can clear your path.

I've got a simple one for you today.

Prove it.

Prove it to yourself.

The one thing you're holding onto as your reason for not doing what it is you actually want to do. The one thing you don't believe you can be. The one thing you don't believe you can have.

Prove yourself right.

Because this is a theme that comes up time and time again in my emails and calls with you.

It's woven all throughout your stories.Continue Reading

One Question

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A beautiful woman is sitting at a table frustrated, questioning herself.
This is what you have to ask yourself.

I have one question for you today.

Do you have people in your life who actually see you? Who embrace you, who celebrate you? The real you - not the image you put out there because that's who you've been told you are, but the actual you?

Since you're here, I'm assuming you've only known relationships with men who were never the right ones for you, who had no place in your life.

I want to change that for you.

We need to create some semblance of what it feels like to be loved and accepted and adored for you. If you've never experienced anything like this before, we're going to start fresh as if today is the first day of the new you.

The you who loves to dance, who loves to move, who hears the music all around you and believes in a different world from the one you've been through.Continue Reading

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