Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
I often hear women asking whether or not their relationship is the real thing.
Wondering if the guy they’re with is the right one for them. Wondering what they should do. And in most cases, as soon as they start describing their situation, it becomes pretty clear that there’s a lot more going on in their situation than love.
If there’s one mantra to make your own, it’s one that states it clearly and simply: real love is never complicated. Ever.Continue Reading
My mom called me the other day and asked what I’d like to do with all of my self-help books. All 987 of them.
OK, maybe it was more like 100, but you get the idea.
They were all of the relationship books that I left at her house when I finally had the courage to head off for California to follow my dreams. I didn’t have the space to take them with me, and couldn’t bear to get rid of them.
They had been such a good friend, so supportive during some of the darkest times of my life. Such a shoulder to cry on.Continue Reading
It was about 12 years ago, at a ski resort in South Lake Tahoe.
It was Thanksgiving, and my best friend and I had decided to take advantage of the long weekend and get out of Los Angeles to spend the holiday with her family in their vacation cabin.
So there we were, two single girls in our late twenties headed off for a fun filled weekend at the slopes.
Skiing? Oh no. There was none of that involved.
We were there for a much higher purpose – to meet MEN!
So we spent the weekend doing what we did best – we shopped during the day, and went out on the town at night.
It all started off innocently enough.Continue Reading
Last month we discussed the reasons he hasn’t called.
Since then, I've gotten a lot of questions about dating protocol regarding whether we should go ahead and call him or wait it out and see if he comes around.
It got me thinking about this topic and what’s really going on with this whole should I call him?, how long should I wait before it’s ok to call him?, etc.
Why do we put so much of our energy into trying to figure out this simple decision?
Because it has such implications.
Or does it? Does it really matter if we call him or not call him?
Of all the things I remember from my single days, that’s probably one of the most memorable; the “do I or don’t I call him” conundrum.Continue Reading
I started out writing a list of New Year's Resolutions to recommend for this post – a collection of a few that I had made myself over the years. As I reviewed the list I started crossing some off, and then I started combining the similar ones.
I soon realized it really all came down to one single, simple resolution. Just one simple goal to strive for this coming year (which is so much easier because it’s hard enough to keep just one resolution!).
This year, this will become our mantra: Refuse to Settle for Anything Less Than You Deserve.
Because if you refuse to settle for anything less that you deserve, that means you get who you are.
And what you’re worth.
And why you’re worth just that much.Continue Reading
When I look back at all the relationships that didn't work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that my guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was going to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for.
So, to spare you from what happened to me, to give you the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here’s my list of the warning signs that I didn't heed. Fortunately, you still can.
Here they are, in no particular order …
Granted, I know that sometimes life can get it the way, and if he’s working late on that big project with the looming deadline it’s possible that time might get away from him once in a while.
But if this happens more than once or twice, it’s a sure sign that you’re just not a priority for him right now.Continue Reading
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