Inspiration

The Inspiration category contains posts intended to inspire you to be your best in both love and in life. To remind you that you are beautiful, that you have worth, that you deserve the best that life and love have to offer. The Inspiration category also includes a collection of various poems, stories, etc. that have given me inspiration over the years that I'm now sharing with you.

You've Been Told the Wrong Story

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Woman having a cup of coffee surrounded by books representing her story. — This isn’t the truth of what happened.

You’ve tried them all.

You go from place to place, looking, searching for the one thing that will be your magic answer. You search the world over for the one thing, the one person, the one magical formula that will finally make everything right in your world.

You may not know exactly what it is you need, but you think you might.

You think it’s found in the idea of the perfect man for you, or the idea of the perfect job or career for you, or the perfect location, or the perfect body, or the perfect house, or the perfect family, or whatever your particular perfect thing may be.

Except that you’ve tried so many things already, and nothing lasted for long. The feeling of everything finally being right in the world was temporary – fleeting – until it was no more.Continue Reading

The Truth About Low Self-Esteem

The Undeniable Power of "Yes"

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A beautiful woman rising up from the grassy field with her hands in the air proclaiming Yes! — There’s a power here you can’t imagine.

When we’ve tried again and again and it still hasn’t worked, when we’re so tired of having to explain why it happened again to the same people we had told this time was different, it’s hard to feel passionate about anything.

And yet this is what love and life asks of us.

Are we sure? Is this what we really want?

There are few actions we can choose to take that will elicit the power of everything around us more than the power of saying “yes.”

Far too often we find ourselves saying “I guess so” or “maybe” out of fear, out of uncertainty or out of our need to know the end result first before diving in.

Our first reaction may be indignation or even anger at even the suggestion that we might not know what we want or be sure enough.Continue Reading

My Wish for You

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Beautiful 35 year old woman stands in front of the window making hearts on the glass with her finger. — It’s all for you!

I know you get so many emails from so many people telling you what’s wrong, what you need, and why they’re the ones who can fix it for you.

I want to give you something different this holiday season.

We feelers feel a lot this time of year, and I want to acknowledge how much there is to feel.

No, it’s not you.

This time of year we cry more easily, we feel everything so much more deeply, we sense the nostalgia of the ones that got away and the ones we wished could have stayed.

We feel.

We hurt.

We grieve for a past that could have been different.Continue Reading

It's the Opposite of What We Think

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Beautiful young woman with long hair lying on the grass — What if you could look at it another way?

We look around and we see so much of what our culture calls strength among our friends, our colleagues, our role models, almost everyone it seems. They let things roll off them, they don’t take everything so personally, they walk away without looking back.

They make everything look so much easier than the way it feels to us.

The way it feels to us.

It’s this part of us that gets the least amount of validation from the world around us and the people who are the least like us. In a world where success is evaluated by the measurable things that have nothing to do with our hearts, it’s no wonder we can feel so wrong, so misplaced, so counter to what we feel so otherwise pressured to be.Continue Reading

Will It Be Worth It?

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Female hands holding a sand in form of the heart — Oh, it will be!

We don’t want to have to do anything. We just want it to work out.

We do everything we can to prove that we belong, that we’re in the right place, that he’s the right one for us. We play the part, we take on the role, we pour all our time and energy into making this our place.

Except that forcing something that isn’t meant to be forced - that doesn’t want to be forced - never works out in the end.

Because it can’t.

If we were already in the place that we’re going to come to, we’d recognize that we actually don’t want it to, either.Continue Reading