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The posts in the dating category relate to the early stages of a relationship, before the two of you are exclusive. The dating category includes topics such as where to find men, how do I find Mr. Right?, first dates, should you call him, etc.

The ONE THING You Need to Do to Find Mr. Right

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Beautiful woman snuggling with boyfriend on couch.
This is the one thing I wish I had done.

I have a few single girlfriends who are now in their late thirties and early forties that are always asking why they haven’t been able to find their Mr. Right. 

So I looked back at my own life to try to understand why it took me until I was over thirty to find him myself, after so many failed relationships, all which began with so much promise.

I realized that the single most important thing that I could have done that would have saved me so much time and heartbreak, the thing that I was missing all of those long, seemingly wasted years, is to have really known what I was looking for!

I know, it sounds so simple – you’re probably thinking “Of course I know what I’m looking for – a great guy!”

But what, exactly, does that mean?  Continue Reading

The REAL Reason He Hasn’t Called

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone wondering why he hasn't called.
If he hasn't called yet, this is probably why.

I remember it like it was just yesterday.

The conversation my single girlfriends and I would have over and over again. Whenever one of us had just gone on a first or second date, or had been in a slow moving relationship with the typical non-committal guy we were in denial about.

The conversation always inevitably came around to “Why hasn’t he called?” 

It was always spoken with that combination of sadness and desperation, with a little trace of hope salted in.

We could have had a ringtone on our phones for it. It was the tribal rallying cry, calling all of us together in support of the one whose turn it was to live it.

And then the conversation would begin, with us rehashing every single detail of what we had said and done, what he had said and done.

Every possible piece of conversation, body language, tone, nuance, and action was meticulously scrutinized as we tried to piece together the answer to that question that was eluding us once again: why hasn't he called?Continue Reading

How NOT to Meet Mr. Right. (Part 1)

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Young smiling fireman firefighter in uniform in front of fire engine machine
He wasn't Mr. Right.

This is the story of Mike, the fire fighter.

And me.

And our relationship.

Now we all know there’s just something about a firefighter, right? The big strong hero, who lives to save people, and is coming to save us too. They’re special. And if they like us, then that must mean we’re really special. We’ve really been chosen.

Or so we think.

Or at least so I thought.

After all, it was the beach. Where better for fate to bring him and me together. Sand, surf, sun and all of the endless romantic possibilities they represent. Continue Reading

Shallow

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For me, it was all about the kind of car he drove.
For me, it was all about the kind of car he drove.

Cars.

El Caminos.  Corvettes. You name it.

I have a confession to make. I was really really shallow when it came to what kind of car a guy drove.

Like it was a deal breaker.

Crazy, I know, but it was. For some reason, it just really mattered. Like the guy who drove the El Camino.

You know, that half-car, half-pickup truck contraption that must have been popular at one time or another.

Well, it wasn’t in the nineties when I went on a date with a guy who drove one of those, and while he was attractive and charming and had a number of other great qualities, he, well, he had that car.Continue Reading

The Things We Do For Love

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A woman skiing out of control down a steep slope.
This is how I wound up on a roof...

Why we do them, no one knows. But if we think it’s love, we’ll try it.

Because they’re into skiing and we want to do things with them and we just know it’ll be easy to pick it up.

No, no, no! Do not do this.

I learned this one the hard way. And ended up on the roof. Of a shed. On the slopes.

It was supposed to be skiing on the trails, and not scary. But, in my enthusiasm for my new beau, I neglected to mention that I had never skied before, and in fact, found the whole thing a little scary.

But I, the ever idealistic pleaser, was sure it would work itself out.

Right.

So there we were. Of course I looked the part in my expensive sexy snow bunny suit, so I figured that would make it all work out. I’d look so good it wouldn’t matter that I didn’t really ski (at least not well).Continue Reading

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