We're freeing you today, Girl. We're taking the blame off you for a change.
We're starting new, with a clean slate, without repeating the past.
We start by freeing you from all the "shoulds" that overwhelm you so you can't see what you actually need to see to do. We start there because that's everything.
THEN you can take responsibility for what's yours - and give back the responsibility for what was never yours.
But until we get you free from what's been anything but freedom for you, you can't see it. Not because there's anything so wrong with you but because when all you're feeling is bad because of what you should have known or should have done differently, that takes all your energy, all your focus and leaves you with nothing you can actually do!
That's why you can't change this pattern.
That's why you can't break free of attracting the same thing all over again. But when you're finally able to see yourself without the heaviness of everything that's always been your story that was only the story someone else gave you, you can do anything, Girl.
ANYTHING!
That's the reason I'm here. This is what I discovered the hard way that no one ever shared with me.
I know you find your way here because of some guy who meant the world to you, but this is NEVER about some guy who's so amazing - he never rises to that level in reality.
It's ALWAYS about what his being in your life was meant to do for YOU!
Love,
Jane
I know how hard it is to see anything positive come from a breakup. And I know how tired we are of more lessons, but if he wasn't going to be the guy for you, was there anything he revealed to you about love, about relationships, about your beliefs, about you? Share it in the comments below!
I want to start new, This is what we must know to win the game of love. I just cut the chase and calling it what it really is! That’s when we become more worthwhile. I’ve been too accommodating and understanding now it’s time to love my self more. I am in need of your lessons. I can’t wait to find out how to apply these taught starting new,Thank you Jane.
Direct communication is essential, Olive. And no, it doesn't make us too much for someone who is actually compatible and on our same page!
Dear Jane:
I was thinking similarly in a way last week and also found the same reflections in the program I do to heal. No matter if I achieve my goal of finding the healthy love of my life and having a family and being a biological mum with him (I am 44), I am going to love me all the way.
Every time I found I attracted and felt attracted to a new unhealthy relationship I have shamed myself (before I thought that after 20 years of trying it was impossible). No I know it is not and that I am trying all I can to change my subconscious beliefs. If it works I will thank life and if not, I will love myself anyway from now on.
Lots of love! And thank you as usual,
Erica
Love to hear we were on the same wavelength, Erica. You're exactly right - it's not an either/or proposition, it's a win/win because you either have someone in front of you who loves you for you or you now love you and THAT will make it so much easier to attract someone in your life who WILL feel the same way about you. Lots of love to you, too!
No matter what, I have to, I have a right to, take care of me!
Yes, Jenny, you do! And no one - no voice - has the power to tell you anything different! ❤
I just want to be happy and have more good things happen than bad
The Best is yet to change come. That’s what I say to stay inspired and motivated. I really do believe that.