Most of us have fears and even trauma around asking for what we need or setting boundaries because of how this has been received in our past.
We only know the extremes of coming across accommodating or demanding instead of the balance of taking ownership of what we need, recognizing we have a right to ask for that, while allowing those we ask this of to have a right to their own response, even if it's not the response we want.
We don't have to be afraid of their response.
Instead, we can view it as giving us the information we need to know where we go from here, to be able to be informed as to what's in our actual best interest and how we can better make decisions and communicate additional information based on that response.
This isn't easy communication or conversations for most of us, especially when we've been brought up to be so accommodating and understanding of everyone else's needs to the detriment of our own.
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