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Feeling resentful? Here's why that's so NORMAL!

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Woman sitting by a lake feeling all alone in her relationship.
Could I really be right back here again?

I was on a call last week with a beautiful woman I'm coaching all the way from Africa. Our community has reached all around the world!

She was struggling with her deep - and completely justified - feelings of resentment after finding herself in yet another relationship where she's put in all the effort to keep a relationship going only to have it end in disappointment.

"When am I ever going to get this right, Jane?!" she asked me.

I empathize with her after voicing these same words more times than I ever thought possible.

"Could I really be right back here again?" For every one of you who've ever uttered these words, we all commiserate with you!

Who among us hasn't responded from our default hard-wired programming that tells us when someone pulls away, you try harder, you do more, you give more of yourself? Who of us haven't found ourselves doing what we would be so much better to do when it feels so counter-intuitive to our rising panic - to stop and let him come to you?Continue Reading

The One Type of Man You ABSOLUTELY Can't Be With if You're Codependent

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Woman and man sitting on a curb breaking up, man with his head in his hands
This is NOT your guy!

There's someone who keeps appearing in my calls with you.

A certain type of man that keeps coming up in our conversations, no matter where in the world you happen to be, regardless of your story, regardless if you've learned all those hard lessons, regardless of who you are and where you've been.

Years ago, I thought it was just me, and then just me and my friends, and then just some of the women I coached, and then almost every woman from every part of the world was telling me her story of the same type of man.

Until I realized, this was no coincidence.

All of us nurturers, grace-givers, empathetic feelers and sensitive souls can't help but feel the pull of this strong on the outside, yet soft on the inside kind of man.

We're the peace-makers, the harmonizers, the sympathizers, the empathizers, the understanding ones with a cup that seems to always be full for everyone else even as we become more and more depleted giving every part of ourselves following some unwritten "rules" about how we do relationships. And it's not just our relationships with men, it's our relationships with everyone!Continue Reading

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