Oh girl, believe me I've tried. You're not the exception and you're not going to save him.

The conversation always goes something like this.

"I get him like his ex never got him. He tells me he's never felt like this before. So how can you say I won't be the exception? How can you say I can't save him? I'm not like anyone else he's been with. Isn't that worth something?"

So let's say you are.

Let's say you really are the exception you believe you're going to be. So what then? You think that's going to be the end of it? That you get him, he commits to you, and you somehow have your happily ever after with this guy?

No, that's not the way this works. You're not home free - or free anything! - if you somehow eek a commitment out of him.

That's when the real work kicks in.

Now you have to keep him. Now you have to keep up the herculean effort it took to get him this far. The being perfect, the biting your tongue, the holding back, the keeping yourself in check, the pleasing, the performing.Continue Reading