I don't know what you're going through today, but I've got a reminder for you of something I used to always forget along the way, especially on my least hopeful days.
All it takes is one.
One person.
And I'm not just talking about some guy.
I'm talking about something you can control. Something you have all the say in.
I'm talking about you.
Someone's going to wrap their arms around you and hold you like you've never been held before, Beautiful.
I don't know who that person will be for you, or what it's going to look like for you, but I do know that when you've wrapped your own arms around yourself and held yourself like you've never been held before, that someone is going to meet you right there.
It's how you teach someone to love you without even realizing you're doing that at all.
With your own energy.
With your own love.
With your own care.
Of YOU.
Love you, Girl!
Love,
Jane
Did you need to be reminded of this today? Let me know in the comments below!
Thank you
You're welcome!
I think I’ve known all along but I really did need reminding. In the midst of everything that is going on we tend to forget to love ourselves. Thank you Jane for this reminder!
Exactly, Marisa. So glad it resonated with you!
Yes I needed this
Hearing you, Cheryl. Hope you've found some solace here.
This was so poignant today! I needed this. I totally wrapped arms around myself and went in for a much needed hug! This was such perfect timing! Thanks
I felt that right there with you, Donna. Do that every time you feel alone. You're never alone when you have your YOU!
I did need to. I just started dating a guy that had nearly everything I wanted - except he came on too strong sexually. I love myself too much to fall for that. When I simply held the line on some communication, he became scared and avoidant and I realized I don't need that in my life. None of that is conducive to support or communication. I'm not doing 75% of the emotional labor for anyone. But I DO need a bit of encouragement that the right one will come. Thank you.
He will, Nancy. And be so proud of yourself for recognizing that initial aggressive sexual energy as a huge red flag in the beginning like you did. No, it's not something to be flattered by. A guy who comes on that strong knows that's all he got to give you so you get it all at once!
Yes thank you so much
Always here to remind you, Tabitha!
It is uncanny; I really needed this today! Thank you!
So glad!
Definitely needed that today. One of my strengths is to love and care like this. One if my weaknesses is to love and care for myself like that.
Hearing you!!
Never really hugged myself before and it was really great. Lol it felt like it was someone else hugging me. Gave me a warm feeling and put a smile on my face.
Thankyou for that.
Suzanne ❤️
Feels good, doesn't it?!
Yes and so very much more! Its been 2 yrs and I only gotten so far as absolutely no where. Im frozen in my thoughts/heart and haven't moved no where. Honestly I don't want to but at times I feel like I'm going to leave alright.... and not ever come back
Where would you go? And where do you want to be in another 2 years from now? If you made a real plan to be there, what does that look like? Lots of hope, just need to take the steps to make it real to you!
Thank you for that lovely reminder! That was so beautifully said!
Thanks! I needed to hear that 💜
So glad, Heather!
Ohhh love you
Really needed to hear this today
Thank you so soooooo much
Aw, so glad it came through for you, Jessica!
I truly needed this today!!! Thank you for the reminder. I’m always loving everyone else and sometimes don’t give “me” enough of the beautiful love I give away!!!
Right? So glad!!
Yes I did need to be reminded of this today. Scott & I are trying to work on things. He lacks communication. If he woupd just say Immgoing to be busy working on my house for a few days Ill talk to you when Im done great. And I meed to forgive him for blocking me out of his life & seeing another women last year. It hurts. He spent holidays, birthdays etc with her & it still hurts.
That's his code word for he needs space when he can't put it into words. Would it make it easier if you could accept that about him? That he may not be able to communicate the same way you do, but that he is making the effort to communicate in his own way? Effort is everything and the fact thathe's trying is a good sign. The one thing I am wondering about: has he asked you to forgive him for seeing this other woman? Have you talked about why it happened at all? Sounds like you need to feel safe that it's never going to happen again so you can move on from here. Use those words. I need to feel safe and I'm scared it might happen again if Iet my guard down. Then let him do the work of figuring out how to fix that for you. Let me know how it goes!
Thank you,
Yes. Actually, last night I did just that. I wrapped my arms around me & filled myself with my own love.
It felt amazing.
Thank you for all the beautiful emails,
They always seem to speak to me personally.
Love you
Beautiful, Vee. I'm so glad!
Yes, thank you!
You know I'll remind you every time you forget, Renee. I'm here for you sweet soul!
Oh, you have no idea! I truly did! Thank-you!
Aw, I'm so you glad you did, Susan! I'll always remind you.
I really needed to hear that today. My BF doesn’t love me as much as I do him. Oh I know he cares and we get along so well, he is just so guarded….
Can you accept him that way? He'll open up more if you do, if he doesn't feel the pressure that he has to. Let me know how that goes!