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You or your best friend - who's right?

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Sometimes, we need to hear it from someone else.

What would YOU say is the reason you're single and what would YOUR BEST FRIEND say? No, I'm not yelling, just want to make sure you get both down 🙂

I was thinking about this last night. When I first meet you on a call, I will ask you this, because it matters.

I've never met anyone on my calls who was choosing to be single, even if that's what they said.

Either you're so tired of being asked if you're "still single" and you've got your defenses up so you say the same thing you've always said. Or you're so past the giving up stage that you've just accepted this as your fate.

It's no one's fate, no one's destiny; you have so much more control over your status than you've ever been led to believe!Continue Reading

How do I get someone I actually want?

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A beautiful woman looks sadly out the window.
I miss what I had.

Do you know what kind of energy you're putting out into the world when you're looking for someone to love you?

Most of us don't realize just how much the type of energy we give off matters, or that we can change it if we're not finding what we're looking for.

This is what Jodi wrote in to ask me about, without even realizing it was what was keeping her from finding what she was actually looking for!

Here's what she wrote:

Well, after all I've been through, Jane, I've ended up single. Now I'm missing the times I've had when a guy told me I'm his and protects me and such.

Now I'm just left thinking to myself about what I want and can't get.

So I guess this is what my question comes down to: How do I get someone I actually want?

- JodiContinue Reading

Why do you do it?

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A beautiful woman has her eyes closed representing a panic attack.
Why do you do this?

Think about this.

Wouldn't life be so much easier if you stopped spending so much time with people you have to prove yourself good enough for, and instead went where you're wanted & accepted just as you are?

Read that again.

Wouldn't that make life so much easier and so much better, too?

There's no benefit to be derived from trying to prove you're good enough with people who couldn't care less about you. None at all.

It's only because you feel you have to or you're somehow lacking - and that's on you and your programming. The way you've been conditioned, not anything grounded in real, practical, reality. No logic in the world says to spend time with people who make your life harder in order to make your life easier!

Tell me why you're doing this. Right here, what's your reason?

Why? Because it matters.

More than you know.

Love,

Jane

Why am I ALWAYS attracting struggling men?

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I keep attracting men who are struggling.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you lift a broken man up to where he's finally on his own two feet, only to have him leave you for another woman? If so, you can relate to beautiful Lolly who shared her heartbreak with us today.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

First of all I would like to say that I appreciate you and all that you do for us as women in your "small little community", being a part of Getting to True Love has brought such a tremendous change in my life, the women in this community are just as amazing, I feel like I have gained such an amazing sisterhood.

We might all be worlds apart but you have brought us together for one reason only - to find love, first within ourselves and secondly with the men out there. Thank you.

So my question today is I have noticed that I always attract men who are struggling, be it financially and emotionally, more especially financially, it's either they are still finding their way up or I meet them at the time when things are just not going well in their careers or when their businesses are not doing well.Continue Reading

Think you know the single biggest motivating force behind your relationships?

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What do you believe love really is?

I've got a question you'll want to answer right now, Beautiful.

It matters because it's at the root of all your relationships, whether it's conscious or not, and it's past time we get you to the bottom of this mystery of why you keep finding yourself in the relationships you do!

What was the first belief you held about love, whether you realized it or not?

Love conquers all?

Love is only for some select few?

Love is blind?

Love hurts?

I've been studying relationships and the question of why we choose who we do long enough to see a direct correlation between what we believe about love and who we find ourselves in relationships with, whether you even realize you hold these beliefs or not.Continue Reading

10 years dating but still not committed. Do I let him go?

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Unhappy couple after fight not talking to each other
Will he ever be ready for a commitment?

Ten years is a long time to be dating someone without a commitment. It's never something we set out to do, but in the case of Anne, it's where she's found herself.

Read on to hear her story, and my response, then let her know what YOU think she should do!

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I've been with a guy for 10 years. There's lots of drama.

Every time I find that he's seeing some one else, he swears he's only flirting and nothing happened with them.

I'm 54 and he is 49.Continue Reading

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