This is your life, my beautiful friend. With all of your dreams, your hopes, your desires.
You dream so big, but you ask for so little and you settle for even less.
You get so caught up in longing to begin your life with someone else, that you forget about this life you already have right here in front of you.
You falsely believe that if you just had the missing piece – him – everything else would fall perfectly in place.
But the reality is, that stage of your life will come. A time when it’s you and him. A time when “we” will replace “me” when it’s meant to be.
But right now, this is about you and your dreams and what kind of a difference in the world you can make just by being you and following your dreams and your passion.
Today, like no other time in history, you have the ability to make a difference. Right now. Right where you are.
With the internet, you can find more people like you, more community, more resources, more opportunities to connect. Which are all more outlets for making your dreams a reality.
Some of you have so graciously shared some of your ambitious, beautiful dreams with me and I've encouraged you to follow them and see where they take you.
I dare each and every one of you to take a chance on you to see where your own unique dreams may take you. Find a passion. Find your passion. It doesn't matter what it is, or what anyone else thinks about it, all that matters is that you believe that you have something to offer the world.
Because you do!
It’s your turn. It’s your life. Never again will you have this time all to yourself to choose how you want to spend every minute of it. This isn't about waiting around for your life to begin.
It’s about living the life you were born to live.
You choose.
You create it.
All you need to do is start somewhere. Anywhere.
You can do this no matter who you are. Because if I believe in you, and you believe in you, there’s no telling what you can do!
Wow this is the perfect timing! I try to remind myself of the fact that life happens when I'm expecting it to change or waiting for that right person to come along and I have to stop this as otherwise I truly can't enjoy my life. It is hard not to forget what I don't have but when I have those moments of me time or when I feel I'm really alive I do not remember and I only enjoy the moment. And yes it is hard not to be scared of ending up alone but then I usually get a reminder of the life when someone or some people say I am a great catch and I should believe it also! 🙂
Next time I am in rut and almost lose hope I will read this again, just to remind myself that I'm just being inpatient and I should just enjoy life and take it as it comes! 🙂
I'm so glad you're getting all of this right when you need it, Annie. And yes, you are a great catch and you should believe it, too! 🙂
This passage has made made me realise that it's no good waiting for love to happen. I just need to love myself and life itself and use the time that I have well 🙂 what will be, will be
Exactly!! Thanks for sharing, Jen; I'm so glad you've been able to find this within yourself! 🙂
What i realized today Jane was that a relationship entails a lot of work and sacrifice. I love my independence, the way im so peaceful , the way my decisions are all my own , the satisfaction i get from my job. It would take a very special man indeed to make me want to think about getting into a relationship at this point, because im just so happy as i am. At the same time there is this delicious ' who knows what might happen tomorrow'. As the song goes , life doesnt get any sweeter than this.
I love the way you expressed this sentiment, Ann; and yes, that's exactly the point. You want to make your life so beautiful in and of itself so that when that very special person comes along, you will be in a healthy position of choosing him from a place of love, instead of a place of need.
Perfect timing. Today I realized that I want to be captivated by me and my life. Not in a narcissistic way but more in a peaceful with who I am an what I have to offer way. Now that I'm leaving my love life in the hands of a matchmaker, I'm redirecting my thoughts back to something I have really wanted to delve into which was making jewelry again. Dreaming big does not always include a man. It includes your own life.
Beautifully said, Jackie; I'm so glad the timing resonated with you!
I have found that sometimes being so caught up in having a partner can be more about not having a life you enjoy and are proud of. So often women choose men who represent what they want because of their accomplishments. Not saying not to seek a significant other but more to balance it out. More passion in other areas of one's life is balanced versus over-focus on one area that involves another person.
That is a good place to be Jackie. Now the real test is taking that attitude out in public and demonstrating it with behavioral characteristics like demeanor, voice, body language and use of your eyes...especially in an environment with potential good quality men around watching you. Just like women watch how men use those same characteristics to have an amazing sense of what men are thinking, men use those characteristics to see if you're desperate and needy. If they determine you are a lot of work they don't wish to invest in,, they will try to validate themselves by calling you names in their mind..."She's just a b".. The slightest mistake you make will draw worthless insecure men.
Another way to look at this is women watching men that don't seem to give you or another attractive woman ANY attention whatsoever. Now he suddenly becomes interesting to you and others. He must be SECURE in himself. He must be captivated by himself. He probably knows where he's going.and has goals...You can figure out the rest of the possible paths this analogy could go...NOW reverse it and apply it to yourself.
Thanks for the tip Michael. Yes, sometimes it is very easy to say it rather than do it.
BTW, I met a guy who wanted me to go to the other end of town to meet him for the first time for coffee. It was a first date. I decided against it because any man I know would have said to meet halfway. What are your thoughts?
I'm curious, what exactly motivated you to write three paragraphs of advice to me? You transition from men knowing if someone is needy to making a mistake draws an insecure man. Not seeing the connect. Are you saying that the men who can tell if a woman is needy is insecure? Since it is hard to tell tone by written words posted on a website, it's unclear to me if your advice was meant to accentuate what I was sharing in terms of how I took this article, or if they reflect some kind of assessment on your part about me and are corrective in nature. Please clarify.