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He held me against my will with a shotgun

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Why can't I move on?

I know. I had to read that again, too.

Beautiful Jerimie wrote to me about the guy she's having trouble letting go of and moving on from when she still believes he's the love of her life.

Read on for her story!

Good morning Jane,

This may be a bit long, even maybe a chapter book or short story 🙂 I'll try to keep it to the minimum...

I met Brett November 14, 2014. He has the most brilliant sky blue eyes you'd ever seen. However, what made me fall in love (first time ever) was his stupid half smile with his sideways glance. Omg! That did it for me.

We were just going to hook up for one night.

I had recently been fired from my job (also first time ever) and I just needed a little stress relieving sex. He stayed the night and I went to my "new" job after I left him a cup of coffee on the nightstand and told him to take his time and we'd text later.

I got home after work and to my surprise he pulled up behind me in my driveway. Jumped out and came and opened my door and leaned in for a welcome home kiss. I was shocked! I frantically started thinking..."Ok Jer, relax don't get your hopes up. Be cool! Just be cool!"Continue Reading

Just one

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A beautiful woman is being hugged
It just takes one.

I don't know what you're going through today, but I've got a reminder for you of something I used to always forget along the way, especially on my least hopeful days.

All it takes is one.

One person.

And I'm not just talking about some guy.

I'm talking about something you can control. Something you have all the say in.

I'm talking about you.

Someone's going to wrap their arms around you and hold you like you've never been held before, Beautiful.Continue Reading

You never learned to love. You only learned to please.

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Beautiful woman outdoors looking contemplative, thinking about love.
What have you REALLY learned?

We say too much.

They pull back, they pull away.

We stop talking.

We've learned.

We don't say enough.

They call us boring.

We start saying more.

We've learned.

But what have we really learned except how to pay even closer attention than we already do, to what they say, what they don't say, how they respond, how they don't respond?

To the high self-esteemed among us, what they learn is something very different from what we learn.Continue Reading

What about friendships with other women? I have such a hard time with this!

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A beautiful woman leans her head against a tree, looking unsure.
I am "that single girl".

Nikki's writing to me today about challenges she's experienced around her friendships with other women. She's looking for some advice and I've got some for her! See if this is something you can relate to as well.

Here's what she wrote:

Dear Jane,

Thank you for this website. Every article you have written has applied to me. I really needed to read ALMOST ALL your articles today. I am "that single girl". Smart, attractive, nice funny,  great job, etc. but can't keep a man or friends for that matter.

I have been the girl to stay in bad relationships for fear of being alone, compromising myself to fit in with people that did not honor me. I am also the single girl at all family gathering. Yes, even the young ones in the family, are married and popping out babies.Continue Reading

10 Years Wasted on a Selfish Guy

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Profile of a beautiful woman wondering if her guy will ever want a committed relationship.
He has hurt me so deeply. It's changed my view of men.

You know how you stay 'just a little longer' to see if he's going to change? And then you're afraid not to stay in case you miss that change?

That's the familiar scenario I'm talking about here. This is what happens when we wait it out, not realizing the time that passes in the meantime and the days that turn to months and then years.

This is why she wrote to me with the title, subject 'It's been 10 years'. If you've been here you know how it happens and how 'I'll just see how it goes' turns into 10 long years.Continue Reading

Prove it

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A beautiful woman walks down a path towards the light symbolizing trying to move on from a man who won't commit.
It's what you need to do so you can clear your path.

I've got a simple one for you today.

Prove it.

Prove it to yourself.

The one thing you're holding onto as your reason for not doing what it is you actually want to do. The one thing you don't believe you can be. The one thing you don't believe you can have.

Prove yourself right.

Because this is a theme that comes up time and time again in my emails and calls with you.

It's woven all throughout your stories.Continue Reading

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