There is really only one question that it all comes down to if you peel away the layers of what's really going on...
When he hasn't called.
When he won't commit.
When he's not on the same page as you are, but you so want him to be.
When he lets you know clearly where he stands, and it's not where you stand.
When he tells you he needs space.
When he's getting emotionally distant.
When you find out he's not who you thought he was but you're afraid to let go of all the time and energy you've already invested.
When you want to believe you can change him.
When you don't want to give up on your dream of all that he could be, all that the two of you could be, if only he could see this the way you do.
It all boils down to one simple question, and it really is the most important question you can ask yourself:
Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
I get why you think you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Because we believe in their potential. We believe in the power of love. We believe we can love them enough to change them. We believe in miracles.
We believe that if we just hold out a little longer, give them a little more time and space, they'll see what could be, too.But you, my beautiful friend, deserve so much more than this.
You can't make anyone love you no matter how hard you try.
You can't change anyone except yourself.
You can't make him see what he's not open to seeing.
And you can't open his heart and mind to be open to you no matter how much you think that would change everything. If it's meant to be, it has to come from him. The only way you have a chance at finding out what could be is by finally letting go and living your life - for you, not for him.
Any other way is no way to live.